StarkRGI learned a new allistic phrase this week. "Do you drink tea very often?" apparently means "should the tea be easily accessible instead of at the back of a hard-to-reach cabinet?" I can kinda see the connection there, but I don't understand why allistics can't just ask the question they're actually asking.
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Bodling@StarkRG @actuallyautistic And I learned a new vocabulary word today: "allistic." I don't think I have ever seen it before, so thank you for that.
Secondly, that question about the tea reminds me of the passive-aggressive way my mother often started confrontations.
PatternChaserAllistic communication relies on #implication, and reading/writing 'between the lines', thereby retaining #deniability!
Yes, it would be *so* good if they could learn to #communicate #honestly, as we (mostly) do. 👍
cybervegan (moved)@StarkRG @actuallyautistic I don't think it's intentional, but a result of them thinking "I wonder why this has been put in such an inaccessible place" and drawing the conclusion that it must be due to being used infrequently. They do this because they make a lot of assumptions about what is going on in the other person's mind: if *they* were asked the question, *they* would think the other person was wondering why it's there, whereas *we* are likely to take the question as posed.
Frances LarinaNot asking questions directly is the hallmark of allistic communication.
Perhaps it comes from too many of them saying lies like, "I don't mean xyz, but..." when they absolutely do intend xyz but it wasn't socially acceptable to say so.