Lars

When interacting with other #ADHDers I feel very #autistic, when interacting with other autistic people, I feel not as autistic as them.
In either case, I'm the undiagnosed for 90% of my life and them since childhood.
Is that probably what makes it so different because I'm still masking too much because of anxiety?

Idk, I feel there’s nobody that has the same issues as I do and can understand and share how they get along with it in life.

#ADHD #AUDHD #Autism

Aug 3, 2024 at 6:10amWeb
Show threadLarsAug 3, 2024

Especially for Sensory Overload and the most impactful being light.

I have friends who support me but they still don’t really understand me about this because they don’t have these issue(s).

#ADHDers #autistic #ADHD #AUDHD #Autism

Show threadSteve BradyAug 3, 2024
@lxrs
There's a zillion different ways ADHD and autism can mix together, so my ideas and experiences may or may not work for you:
I think I become more autistic when I try not to be ADHD and vice versa. Like, if I try to manage my ADHD with structure, I get obsessive with that life structure. If I try to stay ahead of my autistic anxieties and sensitivities, I barrel through the pottery shop (metaphor).
Show threadLarsAug 3, 2024
@stevebrady oh yeah I can relate that, but I don’t understand the metaphor. you mean, when you try to reflect about your autistic anxieties, you rather behave after them? that’s the case for me. a little like a fear of rejection, but not rejection - just not being accepted what I'm or want most of my life without even knowing myself and that kinda manifested even after I knew what are the reasons why I’m like this or that. I know it, but I cant explain and I'm anxious about explaining it
Show threadLarsAug 3, 2024
@stevebrady especially to neurotypical non friends. I know many probably don’t care and have no issues with it like when I don’t want the light to be turned on in class, but it is so fucking hard to just be different and to explain or just having the feeling that I might justify/explain myself when I want to turn off the light. I don’t want this (anymore)
Show threadSteve BradyAug 3, 2024
@lxrs Also, while I made sense of my day with the ADHD model, uses life hacks from ADHD culture, other people perceive me as autistic instead. They're not wrong--the model consistently explains me in their point of view (relativity). Does some version of that relate to your not feeling so autistic among autistics?
Show threadLarsAug 3, 2024

@stevebrady do you mean neurotypicals with "other people"? I feel the same.

Yes because I'm more sensible and mature, but tbf, I mostly dealt with younger autistics than me (mid 20s)

Show threadSteve BradyAug 4, 2024
@lxrs Hmm, I hadn't thought of it that way. While I have trouble connecting with other autistic around autism, I haven't got that cold-blooded othering from any of them. I think I get a stronger "you're one of us" among ADHD folx? But good point about how I was thinking about neurotypical people.