Men I don’t know have been yelling at me for about 24 hours about how I am promoting toxicity and misinformation and am a narcissist and a bully in replies to my short thread about how it would be super nice to have control over replies here. To give people who for some reason don’t find people yelling at them to be the highest form of online communication a way to participate in public life online.
Many perfectly reasonable comments agreeing and disagreeing, but like…lordy.
The most recent one is, I guess, accusing me of sending him unwanted DMs by…replying to him in public?
I guess Mastodon is confusing even to FOSS guys sometimes!
@markstoneman
I feel like OP was not asking for alternative not ideal solutions. They are just stating once more that there is a feature they would like. With evidence.
I hesitated to reply to you, given the content of their post. Please note I've untagged them.
I have the general feeling that because some people involved in design decisions don't have a problem with always open replies, they see requests for the feature as not in keeping with their view of how discussion should work here.
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But if we flipped the "you can't have a broadcast only post, you have to block or mute , individually the people you don't want to interact with (or another workaround like your suggestion) and instead had a default "if you don't want broadcast only posts then block or mute accounts that use them" surely that puts the onus on the right person.
Limiting replies is a clear boundary, easily visible and there's no plausible deniability for "she doesn't mean me, I'm a nice guy"
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Sigh... I wish I could say "pay no attention to these asshole griefers" and you'd feel better.
Japanese has a grunt for this.
All I can say is fuck 'em and mute 'em. Nothing is worth being upset over an asshole....
They've been keeping me out of the opensource community very successfully for over a decade and I can't bring myself to put myself in their radar here.@jef wait what?
they deleted "if only there was some way to prevent unwanted replies"???
> but the linux
whether this is a meme or something you just made up ... it is new to me and *perfect* ... I literally lol'd!
this feels like it must have an associated internet "law" where talking about a feature that would greatly benefit folks inevitably invites folks proving how it's needed
@kissane Okay, how... what... ???
"Narcissist and a bully?" Seems about what they told me when I told some guy off for suggesting it was censorship that people I blocked couldn't read my posts, but with the added edge of "talking to a woman I don't like so I have to be completely unreasonably toxic in my replies".
Seriously tho, how does someone draw that conclusion? Soon they will call people bullies for locking their front doors.
@WhyNotZoidberg I guess it was that I pointed out that Mastodon and ActivityPub devs are both working on implementing the features I was talking about, which I mentioned bc so many dudes kept telling me I had to just accept that this is how the system works.
So he decided I made them do it, thus bullying them into, uh, “serving” me. The chronology for this would have to involve time travel but I am apparently very powerful.
@kissane @WhyNotZoidberg I think we’d all like to think we’d be responsible and thoughtful users of time travel but I would probably devolve to petty shit within like…a week.
Or whatever “a week” means in that situation.
@kissane Ugh.
When I first got #OnHere I kept trying to boost WOC who were talking about how notifications are a mess on Masto, I got low-key cussed out by a number of high-profile accounts, telling me that I was shilling for Musk & Zuck & Jack by suggesting that things about Feditown could be improved.
Folks trying to figure out why every town isn't Fediville yet - ya looked at that? Sure, the "Fedi-" branding ain't great, but among the branding problems going on here, that's not even top 20
Ah, they're just demonstrating your point for you.
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