PaulaToThePeople 😷Jun 17, 2024

I guess my mental state at this point in my life could be described this way:

I have very little friends.
There are a lot of people who were very important to me but left me one way or another.
I miss them and wish I had friendships like that again.
I found self love, am content with myself and no longer feel like my mental health depends on former best friends.

I was lonely when I had great friends but didn't love myself.
I am no longer lonely.

#MentalHealth #MentalHealthMonday #depression #NotJustSad #friends #friendship #lonelyness #lonely #DependentPersonalityDisorder #longing #SelfLove

Show threadA.A. Delafin, radicalJun 17, 2024

@PaulaToThePeople Some of these things sound recognizable.

What was something that made you find self-love, do you reckon?

Show threadPaulaToThePeople 😷Jun 17, 2024

@mysteriarch

I have a great psychotherapist.
I read a book by Marisa Franco called #Platonic that made me realize some things.
I had to admit to myself that my way of loving other people was hurting both of us.
I got over them.
I no longer blame myself for human flaws - I am practicing #mindfulness.
Some good things happened to me this year that don't have to do with relationships to other people - I have things in my life that are great and are mine, they don't depend on other people.

Show threadA.A. Delafin, radicalJun 17, 2024
@PaulaToThePeople Thanks for the insight. I started exploring mindfulness myself this year and started seeing a (good) therapist again too. Still find it very difficult to be my own person. To feel like I'm enough, by myself, for myself. Hope I can get there one day 🙂
Show threadPaulaToThePeople 😷
@mysteriarch I'm sure you can get there.
Unfortunately realizations about how to get over mental problems can't just be shared. Everybody has to have their own aha moment and it's hard work to get ready for that moment to come. Or rather those moments.
Jun 17, 2024 at 12:51pmWeb
Show threadA.A. Delafin, radicalJun 17, 2024

@PaulaToThePeople Oh I get that. But sharing insights or leads can help. Good books to read etc. It's how I got the take mindfulness serious as something to try out!

Thanks a bunch