🧵1of2 Trauma dumping isn't sharing. It's offloading.

Sharing looks like: "I'm struggling with something. Do you have space to talk?"

Trauma dumping looks like: Unloading your pain on someone without asking if they can hold it.

The difference matters.

When you trauma dump, you're using someone as a therapist without their consent. You're making them responsible for your #EmotionalRegulation.

That's not #friendship. That's extraction.

Why it's harmful:
Takes without asking
Ignores the other person's capacity
Creates obligation, not connection
Damages relationships over time
Leaves both people drained

Your friends aren't your therapists.

They can support you. But support requires consent, boundaries, and reciprocity.

Malala Yousafzai Thought She’d Never Fall in Love

https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://www.nytimes.com/2025/10/15/podcasts/malala-yousafzai-modern-love.html

What kindness have you see from your friends recently?

“A friend was getting rid of a laptop stand he didn’t need anymore and offered it to me. I said yes please and he dropped it off the next time he visited (we do not live nearby!) and it’s been super helpful.

Now I can watch @HighRollersDnD while I’m working! It’s also useful for properly practical stuff too though.”

#Friendship #Kindness #DnD

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In this article, the author Pip Jarvis laments the lack of help from her coupled friends in setting her up with potential partners. Growing up, she expected that once she was single in adulthood, her friends would step in as matchmakers, inviting her to events with eligible suitors. However, reality... [More info]

📚 Betting on You by: Lynn Painter

When seventeen-year-old Bailey starts a new job at a hotel waterpark, she is less than thrilled to see an old acquaintance is one of her coworkers. Bailey met Charlie a year ago on the long flight to Omaha, where she moved after her parents’ divorce. Charlie’s cynicism didn’t mix well with Bailey’s carefully ...

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#books #reading #libraries #romance #socialthemes #friendship

#friendship : affection arising from mutual esteem and good will

- French: amitié

- German: die Freundschaft

- Italian: amicizia

- Portuguese: amizade

- Spanish: amistad

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