It makes me so sad that so many #disabled people take on society's view of them as deficient, shameful, and deprived. We internalize and individualize systemic #ableism and then blame ourselves for our misery.

It just shows how badly a #DisabilityPrideMonth is needed...

I'm sad for my younger self because I grew up thinking the same way. And indeed even my current self: I'm not totally free of internalized ableism, probably never will be. But at least now I have a better chance of spotting it.

This was explained much better on the post where r/blind explained that blind mods can't moderate the subreddit any more.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Blind/comments/14nzwkm/they_finally_did_it_reddit_made_it_impossible_for/
They finally did it: Reddit made it impossible for blind Redditors to moderate their own sub

Since the [latest "accessibility" update to the Reddit app](https://www.reddit.com/r/modnews/comments/14n9426/), the amount and magnitude of new...

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The other thing I wanted to say for #DisabilityPrideMonth is to the people who aren't sure whether they can or should call themselves disabled.

I'd like to say: welcome.

(If you want.)

Disability can be defined as a condition that significantly impacts your life. It can be defined as where society disables you.

It's not just for mobility or sensory impairments. It's not just for physical pain. It's for invisible conditions, variable conditions, mental illnesses, energy-limiting conditions...

I think, like with queerness/transness, people get nervous that they're somehow "appropriating" disability. That they're "taking the label away" from people who "really need it" or "need it more."

Welcome! This is a very common disabled experience!

But you aren't taking anything away from the "real" disabled people by counting yourself among us. A lot of us are disabled by narrow societal expectations.

I hope you can find solidarity and community among us. Those things do us all good.

@bright_helpings
Thank you for highlighting this.
As someone with ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia, I've been doing a lot of thinking about the term 'Disabled' and how it applies to me.
It's very easy to fall into a lot of the 'Am I appropriating this? Am I making light of others' disabilities?' kind of thoughts.
But, at the end of the day, the society I live in does not build things with me in mind, and frequently doesn't accommodate the differences in how my brain works. How my brain does it's thing frequently gets in the way of how I'd like to be getting things done. That's disability, and it's not helpful to pretend it's not just because I have it reasonably well managed.

@bright_helpings in case it helps anyone else, I'm sharing what finally made the social model of disability click for me.

Needing glasses is a disability. Glasses are an assistive device. And yet needing glasses is so common that various social and bureaucratic structures have been modified to accommodate it: a special type of endorsement on drivers' licenses, for instance.

Society sets the parameters of which bodies are disabled, and which disabilities are stigmatized and destigmatized.

@bright_helpings it has taken me a very long time to *realise* I am disabled now, and that more than anything has given me a new understanding of how truly universal disability is. There is no clear divide, no scarlet letter, no them and us.

@bright_helpings Thank you for this thread.

I am a hypermobile person trying to come to terms about this myself, I have been through hell trying to even get a diagnosis for my problem and I've been turned away multiple times because doctors think me dislocating my joints or bending them in places they shouldn't is me faking it. I've only recently started considering myself disabled.

I don't know what exactly I am, all I know is that I am both neurodiverse in some manner and have hypermobility in my joints. Trying to call myself disabled has been rough, and posts like these help alot