École des Bro-ArtsGosh it feels weird to have your Tumblr DMs with your dead friend read aloud by chatty gays on a true-crime podcast.
This would be a lot better if the hosts had, I dunno, invited someone with a basic familiarity with bear & leather subcultures to talk. There's a lot of awkward humor/scorn around basic leather stuff like collars, brands, contracts, etc., and it mixes up the stuff that was abusive with the stuff that could be--deployed by someone else--healthy.
Chung-chieh Shan 單中杰@aphyr I wonder if there is (to paraphrase) an exaggeration of difference, a presumption of outsider superiority, and an application of clichéd analytical models for perceiving the bear & leather subculture
Brother in Pounded Prostate@aphyr this needs to be called out more. Obviously I get that this may be too personal for you, but it sucks when people reproduce and reinforce this stigmata, making it so much harder for curious people to navigate these waters safely
Michael Integritas@aphyr It's a pitfall of podcasts in general. At least (most) reputable journalists understand that consulting SMEs is part of researching a story.
I'm sure it's not a great feeling.
PTownBear@aphyr want me to give them a one star review and make catty comments about them taking a real life victim of a tragedy and turning it into an opportunity to make slut shaming murder porn for internet points?
Nelson Minar@aphyr <3 I'm sorry.
Wolf@aphyr I'm not really a fan of true crime anyway, but knowing what this is probably about... yikes.
ytetic@aphyr god that's shitty.
Giant British Puppy@aphyr oh no. Oh I’m so sorry. That’s horrible… Do you need to vent?
@biscuit_pup@aphyr Big hugs. Reliving that over and over without consent is awful.
@aphyr There should be a privacy law on this. I mean your part of the conversation should have been redacted or something.
@ptownbear it's public record
chmps@aphyr Because it "explains" by pulling some stereotype. But surely they had it coming, if they were engaging in XYZ?
Unavailable healthcare or cumulative homophobic stress or social alienation or just bad luck? That'd need research, ewww and time consuming.
Don't know it was exactly, but that still sucks :(