Gosh it feels weird to have your Tumblr DMs with your dead friend read aloud by chatty gays on a true-crime podcast.
This would be a lot better if the hosts had, I dunno, invited someone with a basic familiarity with bear & leather subcultures to talk. There's a lot of awkward humor/scorn around basic leather stuff like collars, brands, contracts, etc., and it mixes up the stuff that was abusive with the stuff that could be--deployed by someone else--healthy.
@aphyr I wonder if there is (to paraphrase) an exaggeration of difference, a presumption of outsider superiority, and an application of clichéd analytical models for perceiving the bear & leather subculture