École des Bro-ArtsGosh it feels weird to have your Tumblr DMs with your dead friend read aloud by chatty gays on a true-crime podcast.
This would be a lot better if the hosts had, I dunno, invited someone with a basic familiarity with bear & leather subcultures to talk. There's a lot of awkward humor/scorn around basic leather stuff like collars, brands, contracts, etc., and it mixes up the stuff that was abusive with the stuff that could be--deployed by someone else--healthy.
Brother in Pounded Prostate@aphyr this needs to be called out more. Obviously I get that this may be too personal for you, but it sucks when people reproduce and reinforce this stigmata, making it so much harder for curious people to navigate these waters safely