Your Local Queer Autistic NerdFeb 9, 2023

#ActuallyAutistic #NeurodiverseSquad #disability #disabled

Normalize disabled people needing support.

Normalize us needing to live with our parents for longer—without accusing us of being “giant children,”. Relying on friends and family to help us with basic tasks like cooking, cleaning, driving, time management, etc. without accusing us of “weaponized incompetence,” or “leeching off others,” and without telling us “your disability isn’t an excuse to burden others”.

Show threadYour Local Queer Autistic NerdFeb 9, 2023

The amount of times I’ve seen “well if you can’t do that on your own you’re never gonna make it in the real world.”

Buddy, I have friends and family in the real world. They love me and, believe it or not, don’t wanna throw me to the wolves.

And actually, lots of disabled people with my same needs and less privilege die or go homeless. So your “you might as well just die 😊.” Eugenics take isn’t as cute as you think it is.

Disabled people are allowed to need help.

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And tbh, we should normalize everone needing support because hey, life is hard, and we all need help sometimes, and the weird hyper-individualism I see from people is just toxic.
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Show threadlifewithtreesFeb 9, 2023

@QueerAutisticNerd individualism is a lie. We are interdependent with all humans, plants, animals, planet and universe. We couldn't exist as a species without the others.

But they could exist without us.

We are small and we arrogantly think we are not.

Show threadYour Local Queer Autistic NerdFeb 9, 2023
@lifewithtrees Individualism is in so many aspects a new way of existing. There’s so much evidence out there of prehistoric humans and our other hominin ancestors caring for each other and loving their disabled group members. Community is an essential part of our evolutionary history. (Hominin evolution and Paleolithic history is a recent special intrest of mine).
Show threadbodhidaveFeb 9, 2023

@QueerAutisticNerd

Just read 2 columns in the NY Times on "deaths of despair" (overdoses, suicides). I won't name the one I didn't care for—it seemed to advocate trying to figure out on one's own how to be of support to another individual.

More appropriate and productive, I feel, is Nick Kristof's call for a culture-wide, systemic approach to active, practical interventions and support systems.

(I'm afraid I don't have a free access version:)

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/02/08/opinion/biden-speech-sotu-america-vision.html

Opinion | Biden’s Vision About How to Heal America

Standing up to China is about addressing domestic pathologies, not pulverizing a balloon.