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Normalize disabled people needing support.
Normalize us needing to live with our parents for longer—without accusing us of being “giant children,”. Relying on friends and family to help us with basic tasks like cooking, cleaning, driving, time management, etc. without accusing us of “weaponized incompetence,” or “leeching off others,” and without telling us “your disability isn’t an excuse to burden others”.
The amount of times I’ve seen “well if you can’t do that on your own you’re never gonna make it in the real world.”
Buddy, I have friends and family in the real world. They love me and, believe it or not, don’t wanna throw me to the wolves.
And actually, lots of disabled people with my same needs and less privilege die or go homeless. So your “you might as well just die 😊.” Eugenics take isn’t as cute as you think it is.
Disabled people are allowed to need help.
@QueerAutisticNerd individualism is a lie. We are interdependent with all humans, plants, animals, planet and universe. We couldn't exist as a species without the others.
But they could exist without us.
We are small and we arrogantly think we are not.
Just read 2 columns in the NY Times on "deaths of despair" (overdoses, suicides). I won't name the one I didn't care for—it seemed to advocate trying to figure out on one's own how to be of support to another individual.
More appropriate and productive, I feel, is Nick Kristof's call for a culture-wide, systemic approach to active, practical interventions and support systems.
(I'm afraid I don't have a free access version:)
https://www.nytimes.com/2023/02/08/opinion/biden-speech-sotu-america-vision.html
@QueerAutisticNerd of course all of those things are tools of capitalist atomization that are wielded especially cruelly when it comes to disabled people.
the campaign to normalize moving out of your parents' house at 18 was a psyop by the housing industry to sell you the "american dream" of owning a gigantic house and filling it with a bunch of junk.
the idea that relying on a support network is "leeching off of others" comes from a coordinated effort to destroy mutual support networks and leave people dependent solely on sources of capitalist income to survive.
all of this is planned. none of it is spontaneous. and none of it is normal.
@looneybyron 💕I’m sorry you had to face that, but I’m glad your kids have someone to count on. I know this is sadly too common for disabled people.
I’ve gotten very lucky about the people in my life but not everyone has.
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