Erin
John Wiswell"Queer" is a great alternative to LGBT+. It's quicker to say. It doesn't relegate any identity to the other side of the plus sign. It invites all queer folks to be equal. It's cool being queer.
Ben Berman Ghan@Wiswell Not to mention it doesn't demand the rigourus categorization that seems to be what makes queerness more "palatable" under heteronormativity
KarmaWaters@Wiswell Im a cis/hetero boomer ((yeah we're not all just putting cat pictures on fb) and I still struggle with using the word queer.
When I was growing up it was always used as a slur and an excuse for violence "queer bashing" was a common after the pub sport for groups of young right wing men
Im so glad its being reclaimed and has become such a positive thing.
Vik-Thor / Lirleni Hankeshe@KarmaWaters @Wiswell *nods* to KarmaWaters. I'm an early GenX, and even though I am gay, I still have trouble describing myself as queer, even though I definitley am. Probably a generational thing. #Gay #LGBT
Krita 
@KarmaWaters ur one of the good ones ur awesome :>
@kira thank you that's lovely
SCRATCH 🚈🏳️⚧️@KarmaWaters @Wiswell I'm gen z (born '03) and it's a major trigger of mine. while it's good that more of my generation are able to find empowerment in reclaiming it, the downside is that people who are triggered by the word are often forgotten
@ANARCHOTRANSGENDERISM that's a good point , words have power and a history
steve 
@KarmaWaters @Wiswell My non-binary, gay partner also struggles with it for that reason but I love it and fully identify as queer. It’s recently replaced gay as my identity.
Devin Pike :bona fide:@Wiswell I’ve been wondering when this would be an accepted option. The alphabet soup of “non-cishet” is now two-thirds of the alphabet.
enmodo ⚛️ 🧬 🇺🇦 🍉@DevinPike @Wiswell why is it that NCIS never seems to address non-CIS issues in their story lines. What gives?
Bad jokes aside, does anyone see the irony of trying to impose categorical labels on a group of individuals and finding every one of them has different feelings on what that label should be, if anything?
The broader and more inclusionary you make that label the more you will find not wanting to be part of such a generalization / smorgasbord of terms.
Which leads you into the non-CIS-heterosexual trap where you are defining a class by what they aren't.
As a member of the a-theist minority I loathe being defined by what I am not, especially when that thing is something I find irrational and quite often reprehensible.
I wonder if asexual people have similar feelings? Being "not something" leaves out the whole part that's me - what I am.
For now I'll treet queer as a term I'll only use if someone asks me to.
@enmodo @Wiswell ...which is the right path for anyone. How someone identifies is their own truth. Period. No negotiation required. And, if/when I misidentify someone, all they have to do is tell me once. I know the majority of the world don't quite get that, and I have (wistful) hope that changes across generations.
WestCorkBidwell@Wiswell I’m a very happy queer. Damn queer.
Daniel Howard 🌻@Wiswell Sure sure queer is a great word for people who prefer vowels to syllables.
Mijc Stille@Wiswell I always thought this would exclude someone?!
malte@Wiswell it's also easier to use for/by people with a stutter ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Simon Jerram@Wiswell I think there is a big difference between us cis/het people calling people queer without invitation, and people using the word to describe an umbrella they fall under.
serenebabe@Wiswell I thought queer is a term only appropriate for people who are queer? (asking for me!)
Carlos Rodríguez@Wiswell as words like “queer” and “gay” are adjectives, I’ve always wandered if it was ok to use them to describe non heterosexual and/or binary people. I’m still not sure.
John Caveney woke is me🛠️@Wiswell fair point well made.
Lonewolf@Wiswell what's wrong with "person"
Joy Denebeim
Martin@Wiswell
Yes, and absolutly opposition
Yes, and absolutly opposition
Seph Harrison@Wiswell This is what I choose 'cause I'm not sure what I am, ace, demi, something else? To me Queer is just a good umbrella term for not straight. Now if'n I could figure out what the queer flag is, assuming there is one, I have one as a wallpaper here, but I've seen multiple claimed queer flags.
prunella@Wiswell I’ve always loved the term and its bevy of associations
Nicklas Johnson 🏳️🌈
Ysegrim@ysegrim
You do you.
You do you.
Steven G. Johnson@Wiswell As a Trekker, I always hoped that "The Q Continuum" would catch on for LGBTQIA+. (For example, "I'm in the Q continuum" or "I welcome the Q continuum.")
@Wiswell More seriously, there was an article a few years back that proposed using simply "Q" — inclusive, but avoiding some of the derogatory baggage of "queer". https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2019/01/dont-call-me-lgbtq/576388/
RoanWolf@Wiswell I'm in favor of "member of the Rainbow Coalition". Longer to say, but inclusive without trauma history. "Queer" has been reclaimed by some, not all, of the LGBTQIA+ community. I'm not going to tell other people how they can identify themselves, though!
Rose(Starlight)
@Wiswell I like 'queer' because it is confusing to bigots and saves me the time of explaining
Ash Chudgar
The Mellow Tigger@Wiswell
I've used 'giblets' for many years:
Gay, Intersex, Bisexual, Lesbian, E(*), Transexual, and Straight ally.
* = Everyone else in the IDIC rainbow.
I've used 'giblets' for many years:
Gay, Intersex, Bisexual, Lesbian, E(*), Transexual, and Straight ally.
* = Everyone else in the IDIC rainbow.
John@Wiswell No it is not and should not be used, you are obviously far too young to understand 😡