Ask Aubry 🦝

Can someone help me find another instance that is a bit more women-friendly and supports women's rights?

I'm being told the type of posts I publish here on Mastodon should be posted under NSFW and so on.

Mas.to isn't the right fit.

If you can boost this post so perhaps someone with a supporting instance can connect with me, I would really appreciate it.

Jan 12, 2023 at 6:21pmWeb
Show threadSrinivasn Subbia Dr Jan 12, 2023

@Ask_aubry
Someone shared this with me, hope it helps

https://deasilex.com/mastodon-nsfw-instances/

10+ Best Mastodon NSFW Instances

Here are the top Mastodon NSFW instances if you want to see what's available. Humbler, Switter, Art Alley, Displaced.social, Bostin.space, Eros Gif&Pics, lewd.t

Show threadAsk Aubry 🦝Jan 12, 2023
@srinivasan_sub if you look at the examples these aren't NSFW. However, if the mods here on mas.to feel they are, I need to go elsewhere.
Show threadOne Meat Ball ✔️Jan 12, 2023
@Ask_aubry Its just a generalized instance but I dont think you'd get any complaints here on mstdn.party.
Show threadI use gotos in code 🇵🇷Jan 12, 2023

@Onemeatball @Ask_aubry first rule in mstdn.party about nsfw stuff

Public posts which contain nudity, sexually explicit, or violent content must be marked with an "NSFW" content warning and media marked as sensitive when posting

Show threadAsk Aubry 🦝Jan 12, 2023
@Madbasketballer @Onemeatball have you seen my content? Does it seem NSFW?
Show threadI use gotos in code 🇵🇷Jan 12, 2023
@Ask_aubry @Onemeatball honestly? I’ve been scrolling and scrolling and see nothing that jumps at me being nsfw at all. From a bird’s eye view you don’t seem to break any rules at all.
Show threadOne Meat Ball ✔️Jan 13, 2023

@Madbasketballer @Ask_aubry

I always err on the side of caution with anything too suggestive.

Show threadMihailik 🌼🌼🌼🏃🏿‍♀️🌼🌼🌼Jan 12, 2023
@Ask_aubry is that #Russian flag in the 3rd picture??
Show threadChristopherJan 12, 2023
@Ask_aubry Sorry, did you delete some posts? I'm not seeing NSFW content on your account.
Show threadAsk Aubry 🦝Jan 12, 2023
@kichae I got two warnings. I appealed and they changed the reasoning for the warning after I proved I didn't violate what they said I did.
Show threadChristopherJan 12, 2023
@Ask_aubry Seriously? That's not cool. I'm sorry people are doing this to you. It seems people are still learning how to be moderators.

I'd offer you an invite to my instance, but it's currently single-user, the boxes are all still only half unpacked, and my clothes are everywhere. Plus, I don't have the reach an account as big as yours would be looking for.

I might second mastodon.lol. @nathan might be able to give you an idea as to whether they'd consider your posts inappropriate or not. Or maybe mstdn.social/mastodon.coffee? @stux might be able to weigh in there.
Show threadMickeyMaousseJan 14, 2023

@Ask_aubry @kichae "they changed the reasoning for the warning" this kind of bad faith is reason enough to try to leave.

I'd avoid the nsfw instances though, they are often defederated.

Show threadLisa M-NJan 12, 2023
@Ask_aubry The 3rd picture would be a problem on a lot of instances as it’s slurs/ableism.
Show threadPatty Bluebird 🦩Jan 12, 2023
@schmut @Ask_aubry Yeah. The usage of the R word is a big nope for me.
Added: it saddens me that only two of us have commented on this point.
Really.
Show threadSlavery is violenceJan 13, 2023
@pburke46 @schmut @Ask_aubry yes. The r-word is a show stopper for me.
Show threadAsk Aubry 🦝Jan 13, 2023
@Prainbow @pburke46 @schmut the post was me calling out bad behavior such as that and stating how ridiculous it was.
Show threadSlavery is violenceJan 13, 2023
@Ask_aubry @pburke46 @schmut I don’t choose to repeat or repost slurs.
Show threadAsk Aubry 🦝Jan 13, 2023

@Prainbow @pburke46 @schmut my entire account is shedding light on bad behaviors and calling out when these things happen because of how often they are dismissed and covered up as if they never happened.

As an activist, I often show uncomfortable things because this is what we need to stand up against.

This account isn't for everyone and everyone has a right to set their own boundaries.

Show threadSlavery is violenceJan 13, 2023
@Ask_aubry @pburke46 @schmut I’ve never told you how to run your account or how to respond to whatever you want to respond to, my comment was and remains that the r-word is a showstopper for me.
Show threadcharlagJan 12, 2023
@Ask_aubry holy fuck
Show threadgwimoJan 12, 2023
@Ask_aubry
That's the downside of this place. They say instances don't matter, but they obviously do since each one has its own set of rules. I've seen a lot of toots (heh) where the picture is behind the NSFW thing but it turns out to be something mundane - a cat sitting or a sky or a tree. I dunno. This app is bananas.
Show threadnaught101Jan 12, 2023
@gwimo @Ask_aubry please put your comment behind a "bananas" CW 😝
Show threadTrenton MatthewsJan 12, 2023

@Ask_aubry

Try giving
https://instances.social/
a shot.

Mastodon instances

Show threadnaught101Jan 12, 2023

@Ask_aubry lot of replies in here really missing the point...

"Find another server" is not the answer. mas.to needs to pick up it's #moderation game. All general mastodon servers should be supporting content like this.

Show threadGodfrey642Jan 12, 2023
@Ask_aubry sorry but what is NSFW
Show threadAuthor Sharon F KayJan 13, 2023
@Ask_aubry I'm on mastodon.lol
Show threadHuiLing's Donation UpdatesJan 13, 2023
@Ask_aubry I trust mastodon.world They're hosting important accounts like Auschwitz Memorial. But mas.to seems like a huge red flag to me. With that sort of moderation, I think you're better off migrating to every other server out there. Stay safe and good luck!
Show threadAsk Aubry 🦝Jan 13, 2023
@joezahengdu yeah I'm starting to think that too. They literally changed the rules midway so they can continue to keep the warning on me. They even say so in their appeal response that they changed their reasoning.
Show thread-rbJan 13, 2023

@Ask_aubry I think there is a way to migrate to another instance and have your followers automatically updated. In other words, we followers don’t need to do anything on our side; we automatically start following you at the new location. It makes switching convenient for everyone (and reduces your hesitation to migrate, as you won’t worry about “losing” anyone).

But my confidence in the accuracy of this is only mediocre. Treat as RUMINT.

(ps your posts are not NSFW, IMHO)

Show threadAsk Aubry 🦝Jan 13, 2023
@dashrb I've tested the migration and import and forwarding followers. It works great. I just need to find a women friendly instance unlike mas.to.
Show threadJohn E. GrantJan 13, 2023
@Ask_aubry This just hit my timeline and seemed like it might be relevant to your search for an instance… https://mastodon.art/@Curator/109675649990582245
Mastodon•ART 🎨 Curator :masto: (@[email protected])

:bob_ross: Update on our Code of Conduct: We've removed the word 'NSFW' from our rules/code of conduct, and replaced it with 'lewd'. 'NSFW' is sex-worker exclusionary, and besides, a bit redundant considering the number of people who work from home, or are self employed, or in a situation where viewing lewd content 'at work' is totally fine. We'll be encouraging use of the # Lewd hashtag henceforth when tagging lewd posts, instead of 'nsfw'. :artpaw:

Mastodon.ART
Show threadStephen P.Jan 14, 2023
@Ask_aubry Consider wonkodon.com. Lightly affiliated with Wonkette, which has plenty of shade to throw at douchebros, incels, and MRAs.
Show threadSarah ConnerJan 14, 2023
@Ask_aubry please post when you decide where to move - I don’t want to stick around here either if they’re pulling this kind of nonsense.
Show threadDorf (She/Her) 🏳️‍⚧️Jan 14, 2023
@Ask_aubry I'm going to throw in a recommendation for mastodon.lol as a few others have. While no social media site is inherently safe, I feel safeish on this instance.