jessica by the bayDec 22, 2022
I used to think I was cis and assumed that all dudes want to be girls. Now I know I’m trans and still assume all dudes want to be girls.
Show threadVyr Cossont 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️Dec 22, 2022

@rooster the replies to this thread are gonna be girls, either now or later

but for real if i'd thought to ask some of the cis dudes in my life how often they thought about being girls before i transitioned, i could have saved myself some time. had the conversation after with a few, and the one that i'll remember went like this:

"so have you ever thought about what it'd be like to be a woman?"

"yeah, of course. once or twice."

"a week, right?"

"no. like… ever."

Show threadHannekeDec 22, 2022
@vyr @rooster laughing and crying here
Show threadStaren, the Last StardaughterDec 22, 2022
@h5e @vyr @rooster
toots with threatening aura
Show threadVyr Cossont 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️Dec 22, 2022
@Staren @h5e @rooster real Dorley Hall coffee mug energy here 😄☕️
Show threadStaren, the Last StardaughterDec 22, 2022
@vyr @h5e @rooster this corner of transfem mastadon's energy is like
Show threadjessica by the bayDec 22, 2022
@Staren @vyr @h5e my goal for whatever corner of any social media I am on
Show threadStaren, the Last StardaughterDec 23, 2022

@rooster @vyr @h5e
@zmbush
did

did we do this? ​

Show threadOctavia con Amore

@Staren @rooster @vyr @h5e @zmbush I'm sure we had *absolutely nothing* to do with that.

Probably.

Possibly.

Weeell, perhaps...we...skewed the scale...just a teensy bit?...

Dec 23, 2022 at 5:09pmWeb
Show threadHannekeDec 23, 2022
@OctaviaConAmore @Staren @rooster @vyr @zmbush Move fast and break things. And by things I mean eggs.
Show threadOctavia con AmoreDec 23, 2022
@h5e @Staren @rooster @vyr @zmbush We're not breaking the egg-prime-directive as long as the eggs just *happen* to break in our presense, are we?
Show threadjessica by the bayDec 23, 2022
@OctaviaConAmore @h5e @Staren @vyr @zmbush I love the idea of someone being so powerfully trans that they just spontaneously break eggs around them
Show threadVyr Cossont 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️Dec 23, 2022

@OctaviaConAmore @h5e @zmbush @rooster @Staren torn between the feminine urge to point out that "egg-cracking" culture is as good a way to shove someone back in the closet as any other unwanted interrogation of gender, and the reasonable feminine assumption that anyone in this thread is asking for it

just be a good and loud example, ladies 😇

Show threadjessica by the bayDec 23, 2022
@vyr @OctaviaConAmore @h5e @zmbush @Staren doing my best to show the world that you can be a parent and in your late 30s and still transition and thrive.
Show threadZoey Dec 23, 2022

@rooster Honestly seeing you on mastodon was one of my inspirations for exploring gender for myself beyond just "not guy". So I'd say you're doing a good job at that.   

@vyr @OctaviaConAmore @h5e @Staren

Show threadjessica by the bayDec 23, 2022
@zmbush @vyr @OctaviaConAmore @h5e @Staren  🥹
Show threadVyr Cossont 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️Dec 23, 2022
@zmbush @h5e @OctaviaConAmore @Staren @rooster for the record, i had no egg phase. i fled from any space where people were playing with gender. it pissed me off more than it should have, and didn't realize that most people don't care that much until later.
Show threadVyr Cossont 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️Dec 23, 2022
@OctaviaConAmore @Staren @h5e @rooster @zmbush and then i followed a bunch of game devs on Twitter, which included some women who posted funny relatable stuff and just happened to also post a lot of complaints about something called "spiro",
Show threadOctavia con AmoreDec 23, 2022
@vyr Oh yes, Spiro the Dragon...purple and gold lad, right? Not sure what 100mg might mean, but it's an old platformer and there's plenty to complain about ヽ(´ー｀)ノ
@Staren @h5e @rooster @zmbush
Show threadrecursive 🏳️‍🌈Dec 23, 2022
@vyr @zmbush @h5e @OctaviaConAmore @Staren @rooster Oh, yeah, even though I was very much bisexual, any kind of gender-queerness was too scary to engage with for me
Show threadEllie, Limited EditionDec 23, 2022

@recursive @vyr @zmbush @h5e @OctaviaConAmore @Staren @rooster oh that's a mood. I was still so incredibly drawn to queerness that I ended up in an intensely "no labels, we're just whatever" group of queer friends.

Surprise, 6 years later basically all of us have labeled ourselves and transed our genders.

Show threadrecursive 🏳️‍🌈Dec 23, 2022
@tldrellie @vyr @zmbush @h5e @OctaviaConAmore @Staren @rooster Yeah, it's like, I wanted to be in that kind of space, while at the same time, all sorts of internalized transphobia made it too scary. If there's something that's gonna crack a lot of eggs, it's ... find a way to make people feel more comfortable with being different about their gender
Show threadEllie, Limited EditionDec 23, 2022
@recursive @vyr @zmbush @h5e @OctaviaConAmore @Staren @rooster Absolutely. I'm really happy seeing teenagers today fuck with gender more than I ever felt safe to. My partner's brother is currently in one of those "no labels" queer groups, and I'm just 👀👀👀
Show threadStaren, the Last StardaughterDec 23, 2022

@recursive @vyr @zmbush @h5e @OctaviaConAmore @rooster Since I knew I couldn't be a masculine guy but being a feminine one would make me an object of ridicule, I avoided a lot of the explorations other eggs did. 😔​

...Wait, Vyr, how are you using the word here? Usually it means "a trans person who doesn't know it yet" by which definition all of us who didn't know we were really a from youngish age were eggs at some point.

Show threadVyr Cossont 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️Dec 23, 2022

@Staren @recursive @zmbush @h5e @OctaviaConAmore @rooster someone presumed to be trans and in the last stages of denial who keeps hanging out in trans spaces but is "still cis tho" if asked

there's a difference between not knowing or not being sure, and trying really hard to suppress it once you know but have convinced yourself that you could never transition for bullshit reasons, and i hear egg used to describe the second set of people more frequently than the first

Show threadVyr Cossont 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️Dec 23, 2022
@Staren @recursive @zmbush @h5e @OctaviaConAmore @rooster https://comicsbyxan.com/comic/disgruntled-catgirl-in-moment-of-impact/ this is the epitome of eggy behavior
Disgruntled Catgirl in: “Moment of Impact”

“You’re not really trans, you’re just doing it for attention.” “I SPONTANEOUSLY GREW CAT EARS, DAD.”

Comics by Xan
Show threadVyr Cossont 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️Dec 23, 2022
@Staren @recursive @zmbush @h5e @OctaviaConAmore @rooster incidentally, the artist is finally on Mastodon! https://mastodon.lol/@comicsbyxan
Comics by Xan (@[email protected])

168 Posts, 67 Following, 380 Followers · It's ya gal Xan, creator of trans-catgirl-versus-the-world webcomic Pandora's Tale

Mastodon.lol
Show threadStaren, the Last StardaughterDec 23, 2022

@vyr @recursive @zmbush @h5e @OctaviaConAmore @rooster Ah, yeah. I've only seen that definition of egg used on r/egg_irl, which I viewed as "closeted trans people calling themselves eggs sarcastically/humorously"

I didn't have a 'closeted' phase, (more on how my journey went here: https://cathode.church/@Staren/109561166319695134) but in retrospect I had a lot of those 'just a trans ally who is obviously trans themselves' behaviors in the few months leading up to my cracking, except for not actually being in queer spaces and not having much to say about trans people since I only knew like one and followed a couple others on birdsite.

Staren, the Last Stardaughter (@[email protected])

@mouse @[email protected] My own story is... well I can talk about the clues from when I was a kid, or from when I was in my teens, or my 20s… but… Compared to others, I didn't "always know" and I barely knew any trans people… I had one online trans friend who I didn't begin to talk to a lot (or learn she was trans) until a few months before cracking, but her experience was so different from mine that didn't clue either of us in to me… A sad near miss when I looked up gender dysphoria in 2004 but the gatekeepy description used at the time didn't fit me… I concluded trans must be a hyper-rare medical condition... An ace friend encouraged me to question my sexuality in March 2021, and I concluded I was aegosexual; thought "while I'm here at the big box store, now that I've finished in the sexuality aisle I may as well check the gender aisle" and put words to how I'd always felt about my gender: cis-by-default or "cis-genderless male". I decided to present neutrally online, but I wondered why and how anyone would present neutrally *offline*, heard about agender people, and wondered what the difference in subjective experience was between that and cis-by-default. Over the following week I read trans memes on reddit, and then I saw transition timelines the day after my 36th birthday and thought "if trans people can do *that*, whatever *I* need must be achievable too"; that night at midnight I learned I'd had dysphoria since my teens. (Also, seeing all this I subconsciously learned that being trans didn't have to make you a pariah.) I frantically studied and tried to piece together my gender like a paleontologist digging up bone fragments. I speedran to HRT in 44 days, and by 2 months my identity had slid from 'agender' to 'girl'. So I kind of skipped the "I'm not a *real* trans" and closeted phases myself; as soon as I found out the potion of gender-bending was *real*, I sought it out. I had too many memories to doubt my trans-ness, only whether transition would *work*. So that's my journey, briefly…

Cathode Church
Show threadOctavia con AmoreDec 23, 2022
@vyr @h5e @zmbush @rooster @Staren I joke about egg-cracking, but yes, I very seldom touch eggs because of that very fact. I don't want to be the reason someone gets delayed years and years.
Show threadStaren, the Last StardaughterDec 23, 2022

@OctaviaConAmore @vyr @h5e @zmbush @rooster I'm new at this, having thought I was a boy until 20 months ago; I don't go out of my way to look for eggs but sometimes I find someone who just clearly wants to be a girl so badly it pulls on my heartstrings, and sometimes a friend says some stuff that makes me want to encourage them to explore...

But also, now I just have to post this:

Show threadStaren, the Last StardaughterDec 23, 2022
@OctaviaConAmore @vyr @h5e @zmbush @rooster A story in one image:
(Bless you, @MNNHNewsEnglish, for the timing of that headline...)
Show threadOctavia con AmoreDec 23, 2022
@Staren @vyr @h5e @zmbush @rooster @MNNHNewsEnglish Beautiful. This is truly what the internet is for ❤(ӦｖӦ｡)
Show threadStaren, the Last StardaughterDec 24, 2022
@OctaviaConAmore Just wanted to say thank you for complimenting my shitpost ​
Show threadStaren, the Last StardaughterDec 23, 2022
Show threadStaren, the Last StardaughterDec 23, 2022
@rooster @OctaviaConAmore @h5e @vyr @zmbush I know a cis guy with this power, he was pretty freaked out at first but he learned to accept his curse/blessing and now gives no fucks after the first three or four dozen times 😌​