The missed too-many-men call everyone replayed in Canada–Czechia drew a response from the IIHF

The missed too-many-men call everyone replayed in Canada–Czechia drew a response from the IIHF
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https://www.newsbeep.com/403061/

I was recently called a misandrist for the first time in my life. Why? Because I told a man that men needed to “behave better”. He screamed “not all men!” At me and then demanded I show more deference and acknowledgement that there are “good guys out there”.

This was someone I considered a friend - so I tried to explain that of course there are good guys - but we don’t know who they are. We have to approach EVERY man with caution because of the constant threat of rape and abuse.

I explained that’s why we say men have privilege - because they don’t have to move through life with that constant threat. They don’t have to be on guard ALL the time. They aren’t judged by what they wear, how many kids they have, how much they drink or how late they were out at night.

He proceeded to school me that he in fact experienced No benefit from being a man. He genuinely could not comprehend that I wasn’t saying he didn’t work hard or earn whatever he had - just that it would have been HARDER had he been a woman or marginalized in another way.

Nope. I was told I hate men and that we could no longer be friends.

guys - please don’t do this. I kept my cool and tried to gently explain where I was coming from only to get berated and repeatedly told that if I didn’t do exactly as he wanted - the friendship would be cut off.

This dude proved my point and couldn’t even see it.

We KNOW it’s not all men - but it’s too many men. And we DON’T know who the safe ones are.

I’m debating writing an article about this - especially considering disabled women are far more likely to experience abuse. I’m just not sure it “fits” with Disabled Ginger. Though reproductive health is certainly something I will be diving in to.

Thoughts? Is it too far removed from my normal topics?

#giselepelicot #notallmen #toomanymen #metoo #rape #abuse #misogyny #patriarchy #fuckthepatriarchy #shamemustchangesides #discrimination #womensrights #womenshealth #believewoman

If you don’t understand WHY Gisele Pelicot is doing what she’s doing - or WHY rape victims feel shame - consider the following:

When women report assault they’re often asked:

What were you wearing?
Were you drinking?
Did you encourage him?

When we speak out about misogyny, patriarchy, abuse etc .. we have to endure a chorus of men yelling “not all men!” at us.

We KNOW it’s “not all men”.

You know what else we know? It’s far TOO many men.

We also understand that we don’t KNOW who the good ones are.

It was Gisele’s husband who drugged her and solicited men to assault her. They had been married for decades. Had children & grandchildren. She planned to live the rest of her days with him.

If you asked her - I’m sure she would have said he was a “good man”.

Therein lies the problem. More often than not - you don’t know until you know. Until they harm you.

And that is why we aren’t safe. Its why we’re angry. It’s why we’re sick of “not all men”.

On a personal note - I’ve had men lash out at me for being outspoken on this topic. They’ve demanded I make more of a point to acknowledge the “good men”.

They call me names and withhold friendship and support. They (ironically) end up proving my point.

When you yell “not all men” at us - or demand we show more reverence to the “good men”… you’re not behaving like an ally. You’re not being a “good man”.

You don’t get a gold star for simply NOT assaulting women. That can’t be the bar anymore.

Consider the men who were approached to participate in Gisele’s assault and declined.

I bet you they think of themselves as “good men.” They were frequenting a website that focused on violating women without their consent.

But they said “No”. They chose NOT to assault Gisele. So they want their gold star.

They didn’t stop the abuse. They didn’t go to the police or Gisele. They didn’t condemn her husband’s behaviour. They didn’t state loudly that it was wrong.

They sat quietly by & did NOTHING.

This isn’t good enough anymore - it never should have been good enough.

Men - we NEED your voices. If you’re horrified by this case - speak up. If you know a victim of sexual assault - support her.

If someone confides in you - don’t immediately look for ways to blame them. Support them and condemn the behaviour.

Raise boys to know this behaviour is wrong AND instil in them the courage and knowledge needed to be willing to speak out.

Their buddies make rape jokes? Tell them it’s not funny.

Cat call a woman? Tell them to stop it.

Brag about their “conquests”? Tell them it’s wrong and you won’t listen to it.

These are just a small handful of examples. The sad reality is there are so many ways we reinforce patriarchal misogynistic attitudes from a young age - that it will take a concerted effort to change things

Gisele has taken a brave and powerful step - and we should join her.

Lastly - some of the accused men are trying to blame Gisele. They’re saying she knew and was a co conspirator with her husband.

They literally met him on a website about violating women WITHOUT their consent.

I feel sick but not surprised that they’re taking this approach.

Let’s all agree we won’t be silent any longer. We won’t allow ourselves to be shamed and blamed for the behaviour of others. We won’t be bullied into silence.

We will speak up together in support of Gisele and ALL victims - and we will hold men accountable.

More here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ckgr2yym0nko

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The Gisele Pelicot trial is well underway and I remain stunned by how few men I see speaking out about it.

We NEED you to condemn this behaviour. To hold your fellow men responsible.

Too many men participated in these atrocities and what’s galling is of the men who declined … no one sought help.

Not one of them went to the police - or even to Gisele herself - to let them know a woman was being repeatedly drugged, raped and assaulted and her HUSBAND was arranging it.

They did nothing. They declined to actively participate and then patted themselves on the back for being “good men”.

Newsflash - “good men” would have sounded the alarm. They wouldn’t have expected a gold star for simply NOT raping an unconscious woman.

I’m horrified whenever I read about it - but I keep talking about it so men realize WHY we’re angry. WHY we’re demanding they speak out.

Now is not the time to shout “not all men” and demand we give you a gold star for not being abusive.

Now’s the time to say LOUDLY that you condemn this behaviour and that you will hold the men in your lives to a higher standard.

Shame must change sides.

#believewomen #rape #misogyny #patriarchy #fuckthepatriarchy #giselepelicot #shamemustchangesides #notallmen #toomanymen #metoo #abuse #gaslighting

Men will not believe you the first time. Especially if you challenge a person/company/ idea that he likes. If you present a fact to a man who does not know about it yet, it will be met with an FBI level investigation and you better be prepared with hard data.
Another man says the same thing and suddenly its all "hmm, maybe the other side has a point." Men treat unknown men as more knowledgeable than the women they've known their whole life.

And yes, #notallmen ,but by golly, #toomanymen

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