The Chafetz Chayim's Affirmative Mitzvah 3:
To love God.
As 'obvious' as this one might seem, I feel like it goes under the radar. Or at the very least, gets overlooked. Taken as given. A baal teshuva looking to get himself speedily acquainted with the whys and wherefores might say: "Well, of course, 'love', yadda yadda yadda. Now what nusach do I use for Sim Shalom?"
I often find myself guilty of this - more concerned with the external hurdles than the internal ones. Not wanting to stand out in the wrong way. But if you are to have a relationship with God at all, what does that really entail without love? Your relationship with God can't be going through the motions. It's not a marriage of convenience. You can't just have the fear either, because although hollow fearlessness can accompany carelessness, a loveless fear sounds like the worst of both worlds.
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