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"I believe in the work of death doulas: in helping people find comfort and dignity at the end of life, and I believe in talking about death in the open air on a regular basis. But I left INELDA’s training wondering if there’s even such a thing as a good death, and what we stand to lose when we focus so much on trying to achieve it." —Meg Bernhard for n+1

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Grief Guides | Meg Bernhard

Three months after the training, I traveled to my hometown in southern California. Officially, I was there with my parents and sister for my grandmother’s 88th birthday. Unofficially, I was there to ask her how she wanted to die. I’d looked into death doulas in the area because I was curious, but I had a feeling my grandmother wouldn’t want to hire one, mostly for financial reasons. If she had a definite death plan in mind, she’d never told us. Sometimes she’d say she wants to be buried in the plot next to her parents in Texas; other times she’d say she wants to be cremated, because cremation is cheaper. My family wanted to figure out her wishes, but we rarely discuss things like this together, and broaching the subject had so far felt overwhelming. I offered to try.

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Who knew putting together a presentation about death work with clients who live in supportive housing due to severe and persistent mental illness would be so tough. 😅 Any #deathdoulas out there willing to bounce a few thoughts back and forth?