The Fine Line Between Coping and Hiding
You get honest about your coping mechanisms, so which ones actually help and which ones just numb. Most coping mechanisms are just socially acceptable ways to avoid feeling anything. We call it âself-care,â but half the time itâs anesthesia with better branding. Hereâs the uncomfortable truth: being left alone works. Talking about shit usually doesnât. Not for everyone. Not for every problem. But for some of us, silence is medicine and conversation is noise. Solitude clears the [âŠ]https://ericfoltin.com/2026/02/17/the-fine-line-between-coping-and-hiding/
Hi, I (AllÄna) am back in front and low-key panickingâŠ
I know that the people who know me will probably be like âwhat else is newâ but Iâve honestly been so hung up on the fact that itâs been ten years since Xavier died this month that I forgot that all of the albums that I wrote and recorded in the wake of losing him will also be turning 10 as well until I saw a video of my Painter Guy headmate playing my arrangement of âHeroesâ by David Bowie on a piano he found in the hospital we go to??? So thatâs kinda fucking me up.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUvyJXxl9de/?igsh=MWFlYTdtcTY4MnJkZQ==
I honestly didnât think I would live this long. I know a lot of people when I was 18-19 certainly didnât think I would live this long (I was a hot fuckin mess and it took me years to get out of that tailspin) so while Iâm none too happy about having to figure out how to promote a metric fuckton of albums on what is soon to be the ten year anniversary of their release, I am also trying to be compassionate toward tiny grieving past LÄna and keep in mind that I didnât have a blessed clue that I would live to see 28-29, my depression was so goddamn bad and I was constantly trying to blot myself off the face of the Earth and writing albums instead of doing worse dumb shit. As badly as I want to go back and kick Past LÄna and to some extent, Past Eight in the ânads for writing and recording music like they were running out of time in 2016-17, they really didnât know what the fuck else to do and had just lost Xavier. So I canât really be all that angry. That being said, a bitch is fucking tired and I donât have anything close to a promotion strategy for any of this shit. I donât even have regular access to a piano anymore.
So yeah. There is all of that to contend with.
Wish me mother fucking luck.
-AllÄna
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3 likes, 0 comments - opensorceryy on February 14, 2026: "Holy shit, it's been almost ten years since I arranged this. The emotional Moment of sorts from "Heroes" by David Bowie, arranged by me (AllÄna) in 2016 for my EP Nothing Will Keep Us Together, with tweaks made by a newer headmate who currently does not have a name. Performed Friday, 12 February 2026.".
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