Absolute Memery 🎭
#Rome #RomanEmpire #RomanRepublic #RomanSenate #SPQR #BreakUp #BreakingUp #BrokenUp #BrokeUp.
Willow, Venus Pirate 🏳️⚧️I feel safe enough to try to listen when we argue
#ThingsYouCantUnsay #BreakingUp
We sat at the table, and we argued. It was tense.
I felt triggered.
But I’m healing.
I broke up with her almost a year ago, and couple’s therapy since then has included some of the darkest and most painful moments between us, as I slowly came to accept that even if her pain seemed to come from what I experience as an illegitimate claiming of parts of my identity and the way I express it, I could clearly observe how deeply she was wounded, and I grieved being party to her wounds. I hope she has seen the same about me.
Healing doesn’t mean I’m all better, that my triggers have no power over me. I’m learning to understand my triggers and notice when they activate, and I’m learning that I’m actually safer with her than I thought I was. And I’m learning that we don’t need to predicate growing as a family on healing the wounds in the relationship we had.
We argue in front of the children, now. We let them see our disagreements. I want them to know that people who care about each other sometimes disagree. To show our children what it looks like to care about someone you don’t agree with and to try to understand their perspective. I’m still practicing actually doing that, but even that growth is important to share with our children.
I want so very much to help our children grow into adults who know what it looks like to care about themselves, and to be in relationships of mutual respect with people they care about.
I’m proud of how much I’ve grown since I chose to truly center myself, to care about my needs. I’m still learning how to be myself and be the better parent and co-parent I want to be, and choosing this path made it possible.
An Unbinding
#ThingsYouCantUnsay #BreakingUp #TransFemmeFocus
Some shit hurts. Other parts of me feel like I’ve finally unhooked the last parts of the entity that was my prison for decades - I couldn’t exist outside it. Eventually I overtook its dynamo, and I found the nutrients I needed, and I grew strong, and I broke my prison. My life begins.
And she was there for so long. She bore my children - children I cannot bear myself. She nurtured them. She was nearby as I peered out from the barred windows. She married the entity that I couldn’t escape. I watched her, but I didn’t understand her. And now I stand, arisen and revealed, and she is crushed by the way I don’t act like the entity.
That entity died on Tuesday night. I felt its pain, its sorrow, and its loss in its final moments.
As it spoke the words of breaking it had feared for so long.
They were my words. An unbinding. But I felt its pain, as I unmade it.
I mourn it now.
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Prism & PenBeing dumped sucks even when the relationship is going nowhere for either of you. To be dumped because you are extremely sick and can’t go out and about because there is a global pandemic? Well, that sucks even more.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/falling-in-love-apart-what-chronic-illness-taught-me-about-queer-love-7f678e243bac?sk=13e29ba418ff6e222781257d6454107b
WIST Quotations Has Moved!A quotation from Edna St. Vincent Millay
I know what my heart is likeSince your love died:
It is like a hollow ledge
Holding a little pool
Left there by the tide,
A little tepid pool,
Drying inward from the edge.
Edna St. Vincent Millay (1892-1950) American poet
“Ebb,” The Nation (UK), Vol. 27, No. 4 (1920-04-24)
More info about this quote: wist.info/millay-edna-st-vince…
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #EdnaStVincentMillay #poetry #poem #breakingup #dryingup #love #separation #wilting #dwindling
Paul SchoeIn this video Cult College explains how confused (former) MAGA supporters are that their cult is tearing apart.
She explains that these people often thought that Project 2025 and the Heritage Foundation were 'made-up' propaganda by 'the left', and now they realize what they have voted for.
THE BEST THING NOW TO DO?
Offer Maga leavers safety and kindness. Offer them a good place to land.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_8JbGGi_oI
#Maga #Trump #BreakingUp #Cult
CULT IS BREAKING FASTER THAN EXPECTED #maga #trump #epsteinfiles #charliekirk #cultleaders #gop
Steve Dustcircle 🌹Handling Heartbreak: 13 Ways People #Cope
New research shows the #emotional and #behavioral responses to #breakingup.
WIST Quotations moves again!A quotation from Catullus:
«
‘Tis hard to end a years-long love to-day;
‘Tis hard, achieve it then as best you may;
This victory win, this only safety trust,
Say not you cannot or you can — you must.
»
Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/catullus/73224/
#quote #quotes #quotation #breakup #breakingup #Courage #divorce #ending #love #lover #relationship #romance #separation #willpower