Essentially. And he’s cool with that apparently.

There won’t be any debt. As I mentioned, husband is paying in full for college.

A friend told me to use daughter’s obsession with her dad to convince her: basically play the “oh, but could you imagine living so far away from him for an extended amount of time; why not study something like nursing locally and be with him”. Haven’t tried it though.

And my daughter is sooo obsessed with him. She takes everything he says at face value. Like saying “if daddy couldn’t take care of me anymore I’ll just find a man to take care of me the way daddy does” - basically a variation of what my husband told me too. Very flower power carefree energy.

The craziest part is that when I talk to him about it, he says he’d agree with me if our daughter was a son; but since she’s a girl what she studies/does professionally isn’t important as she should just do what she loves since “she can just find a good husband to take care of her”.

Glad to know someone understands how I feel at least! It’s currently almost 5 am here and my insomnia influenced me to make this post.