shortnsweetHow to talk some sense into my daughter regarding a scam university?
ALQYou need to have a serious conversation with your husband about how he is setting her up to fail by giving her whatever she wants. She’s a child; he’s an adult and should know better.
The craziest part is that when I talk to him about it, he says he’d agree with me if our daughter was a son; but since she’s a girl what she studies/does professionally isn’t important as she should just do what she loves since “she can just find a good husband to take care of her”.
That’s a fucked up. Seems like he doesn’t actually care about either your opinions or the future for your daughter. He’s basically admitting that he knows it’s BS and doesn’t care!
And my daughter is sooo obsessed with him. She takes everything he says at face value. Like saying “if daddy couldn’t take care of me anymore I’ll just find a man to take care of me the way daddy does” - basically a variation of what my husband told me too. Very flower power carefree energy.
that’s not flower power that’s just misogyny! your husband has taught your daughter to be misogynistic towards herself. i think you need a long conversation with her, you need to disillusion her from the promises of “simplicity” of such worldview, because if anything happens to make her less than perfect for “a man like daddy” then she’s going to be left helpless and unable to take care of herself in the long run. and even if she finds a man to take care of her - she will be then stuck with him no matter who he turns out to be
Norah (pup/it/she)I mean, hippies were actually a lot more misogynistic than people give them credit for.
This is the problem, not the university.
Perhaps you could talk to your husband about how she is being set up to to be completely dependent on some man who may abuse her and she will be unable to independent escape.