On women and LGBTQ+ issues, reasonable cis men understand that the best support they can offer is to step down from their own privileges and leave the space and initiative to the victims of discrimination.
The same applies to white people in relation to problems suffered by black people and people of color.
And exactly the same happens in discussions about codes of conduct. If the conversation is driven by the topics from the privileged and not from the harassed, something is deeply wrong.