Dutch non-binary people who had their passport updated: should I get an x or just go with a v?  

An x would be more accurate for me but I could live with a v. I'd like to have more weight behind me when complaining about systems that don't accept nonbinary people (gendering on insurance letters comes to mind) but I don't like the idea of not being able to go to certain countries. I don't want to have to go to court but I don't want to feel like I'm compromising on this either.
And I don't know how to weigh these things against each other.
Would love to hear more viewpoints, tips, experiences, etc

My spouse and I have been struggling, and a large part of that struggle is a lot of hurt feelings over (transphobic) stuff they said early in my transition. We've been working on "accountability" (both ways - i've said/done a lot of hurtful things too. being a self-closeted egg is hard), and the ownership they've taken for a lot of their actions has left a lot to be desired.

But during an unrelated conversation (about difficult feelings re: being trans in the US in 2026), they kind of just blurted out, "Well. You know, I'm trans too." Honestly, at first I took it as incredibly flippant and invalidating. It felt like they were saying "i already understood how you feel. so... stop talking about it." But after I processed it more it started to make so much sense. It could recontextualize our entire relationship, and... I dunno. I got really excited thinking there might actually be a path forward for us, and a chance for much more mutual understanding.

But after talking about their feelings for a day or so, they shut down, and have told me not to mention it at all until they bring it back up. It's been almost four weeks, and I'm struggling with this in-between feeling. I still very much need that accountability, and I'm not sure how to approach that conversation without talking about their gender. I'm also struggling just... waiting. I know when I first cracked I was so scared and wanted to bury the feelings and never ever talk about them again. But. I also see how incredibly painful and damaging that was for me. And I guess I really want to help them avoid getting stuck in that place (like I did for a long time).

Anyway. I'm looking for any advice about how to approach this to help both of us feel safer through the process, and especially about how to heal some of these (very old) wounds (we've been together for 19 years). Ooor just someone to commiserate with 😅

I'd be happy to share more details privately. Boosts appreciated.

Ich bin mittlerweile so weit, dass ich nicht mehr speziell suche.

Wenn ihr aktuell einen Job 100% remote anzubieten habt, der irgendwas mit Datenpflege, Marketing oder Text zu tun habt, gebt mir den bitte. Ich finde rein gar nichts.

Ich bin ein netter Kollege der auch Wochenenden oder Schicht arbeitet, 15 Jahre Erfahrung in Werbung und Text, ausgebildeter Fachinformatiker ohne bisherige Praxiserfahrung weil ich wie gesagt nix finde. Dafür kann ich Wikis (MediaWiki, Dokuwiki) und Wordpress-Websites im Schlaf erstellen.

Ich hab keine besonderen Gehaltsanforderungen, ich möchte nur endlich wieder was sinnvolles machen und nicht obdachlos werden. Dankeschön.

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Letzte Woche wurde meinen Kindern und mir überraschend gekündigt und wir müssen bis Ende September ausgezogen sein.

Ich suche jetzt eine 3-Zimmer-Wohnung in Berlin, kalt bis ca. 600 Euro. Wer was hört, gerne an mich, auch wenn teurer. WBS wird beantragt. Wir sind Nichtraucher und ruhig.
Der Nestling geht nahe Lankwitz Kirche zur Schule, das würde ich gerne irgendwie beibehalten, zur Not würden wir aber auch die Schule wechseln.

Bitte teilen, da dringend.

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