"The freedom to love anyone, and express it in any way that makes sense to us, is another gap from which something essential has been torn away. This freedom is rooted in the neo-liberal freedom to chose between a high number of options - of products, of relationships - where we nonetheless can not refuse to chose. When we can see that we don't option to say "no" to the freedom of choice, the illusion dispels. We are not truly free."
nocouples
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trying to imagine a world without couples
@teun Yep, somehow we (feel like we) have to be so careful with our words on this topic.
(My preferred strategy is to say 'yes' and when people make all kinds of assumptions: act really suprised or like they are weird for making those assumptions)
@teun Great post!
"You can be poly as hell and still believe that intimacy is for partners, not friends. Lots of people do exactly that." Oh yes!!
Also what you write about euphemistic language surrounding intimacy reminds me that I've been thinking something similar about romance: for example 'having feelings' for someone or 'liking' someone, 'being in a relationship', etc.
"In addition to our struggles in the streets and at the printing presses, we open up an additional front against coupledom. Feminist struggle remains the ever-enticing horizon before us." (Against the couple form, Clémence X. Clementine and associates from the Infinite Venom Girl Gang)
Down with patriarchy, down with the couple form!
How can we think of couple abolition as part of feminist struggle?
#feminism #patriarchy #internationalwomensday #coupleabolition #coupleform #couple
"She does not know which is greater, the melancholia of the couple or the melancholia of denouncing it as a social form. Most opt for the sadness of the couple over the alienation of being cut loose from its grasp." (Against the couple form - Clémence x. Clémentine, 2012)
@imbl Yes! I love the RAD list of relationship anarchy resources - I haven't found anywhere else where I won't be suggested articles that are basically 'relationship anarchy is whatever two parties agree upon' or 'relationship anarchy is a subset of ('nonhierarchical') polyamory, or 'monogamy is fine as long as it's a *conscious choice*', but WHY does it have to exist as a google sheet!?
P. AndiI wish people could see that having people who check in on you, show up to help you, offer to meet up for coffee during hard times, actually include you in their lives, is a privilege that a lot of people do not have.