< Herschel > I hope everyone understands that, when I told my mother that I didn't think I'd be able to move out after all because I'm disabled in ways that require me to be taken care of, she said, quote, "I don't want to take care of my adult children forever" and just told me that I'm going to have to figure something out and that independence isn't optional. I told my own mother that I was too disabled to be independent, and she told me I'd have to be independent anyway. The entire way my life is going right now is based on the principle that, whether I am able to take care of myself or not, I will be held to the standard of being able to do so.
< Trevor > Looking back on it, I kinda resent how casual and glib nearly everyone was when they were suggesting I had an intersex condition. They were all like "maybe you aren't on a high enough dosage of testosterone" and would give these giant text walls about how HRT works and then end it with "you may also have an intersex condition" with like, absolutely no discussion of how big a deal it is if I AM intersex and that, if that's the case, I should be prepared to think of myself as having a completely different body than other people have.
< Trevor > Only tangentially related to the original point but the intersex thing in particular is part of why I feel so comfortable throwing out literally anything anyone has ever taught me about being a man or masculinity, especially from the transmasc community, because I now understand that, physically, I will never be the same kind of man that a perisex cis man OR a perisex trans man are. That meant I had to get to the heart of what it truly means to be a man - that's how I learned that the opposite of "man" isn't "woman" but "boy" - and then I realized that nobody else had figured that out for themselves and they were still at Gender 101 where they think "testosterone means man, and putting testosterone in your body makes you a man".
< Trevor > Like, to get more personal with this. My disability keeps me from doing a lot of things and makes even life harder for me than it is for other people; certain things that look like discrimination (e.g. excluding me from doing things that would hurt me) are actually fair treatment. And my intersex condition means my body does not process testosterone the same way as other people's bodies; in terms of what my body is like, I literally am not transgender or transmasc in the same way that perisex trans men on HRT are transgender.
A lot of my self-imposed frustrations have come from holding myself to the same standard as someone who isn't disabled or intersex, and now I realize that's just going to make me unhappy and is more of a cognitive distortion than thinking I'm the same as everyone else. And now I realize that a lot of people are holding others to unfair standards and calling it "equality".
< Trevor > Realizing there are large segments of society and culture that are trying really hard to be pro-equality, but their concept of "equality" is "treating everyone the same", and they have absolutely no idea what to do with it when someone is actually genuinely different from others.
"..we are all capable of believing things which we know to be untrue, and then, when we are finally proved wrong, impudently twisting the facts so as to show that we were right...sooner or later a false belief bumps up against solid reality, usually on a battlefield."
George Orwell, March 22, 1946.
#quote #history #war #fascism #communism #religion #gop #conservatives #education< Ian > I have finished putting together the personal database for my system in Twine! It will not be publicly shared, but I am going to make a similar template for a database in Twine and host it on Neocities, maybe with some other versions, for people to download and base their own system databases in Twine off of.
I think this was my favorite out of the adopts I made recently. Pink meadows!
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Get you a giant Dr Malcolm to hug
Another one I'm taking offers on :)
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