@restorante This is why #ADHD coaching must be trauma-informed if it’s to be effective. We’re not just working with strategies or habits we’re often working with people whose self-trust has been quietly destroyed. Sometimes, the trauma is so raw that coaching needs to pause altogether, with therapeutic support taking the lead until it’s safe to return to growth-focused work

@restorante Trauma is often the invisible thread running beneath the surface of many #ADHD experiences, perhaps as a slow accumulation of distress from years of rubbing up against environments that don’t fit. When you grow up neurodivergent in a neurotypical world, it’s very easy to internalise the message that you are the problem. That constant misattunement can shape not only how you function, but how you see yourself, your sense of competence, safety and worth

@restorante This is how #ADHD coaching can lead to transformation: through that ongoing dance between changing the environment and trying out tools or strategies to see what works. You face a barrier, you design a tailored tool or strategy, you get unexpected feedback, and that feedback gives you more insight into how your mind works, which then lets you shape your environment more effectively. And so it continues, back and forth, as an iterative action-based process

@restorante In #ADHD coaching this is exactly what we explore. We experiment. We try new techniques. We test assumptions. If something is labelled a “weakness”we never take it at face value but we try to approach it differently and see what happens. And again and again I’ve seen people discover they’re far more capable than they believed in certain areas. And now they know a bit better what they are good at, they can further shift the environment to serve them more effectively

@restorante For example, i have clients with #ADHD or #Dyslexia who believed they’re “bad at languages” because they struggled in school, only to discover many years later that they are actually brilliant at it. It wasn’t languages they struggled with but the way they were taught, with a focus on writing or grammar drills when their brain learned best through conversation, immersion or rhythm. The teaching style didn’t match their learning style and this strength was hidden

@restorante Many of us with unseen #ADHD grew up in environments that didn’t reflect or affirm who we are, and that mismatch caused not just difficulties, but slow erosion of confidence and clarity that comes from constant friction, misattunement or being misunderstood. This can completely distort how we see ourselves

@restorante Yes, but especially for people with a late diagnosis of #ADHD knowing their strengths might not be as straightforward as looking back and remembering what they were good at because those memories might be filtered through an environment that never let their strengths show up in the first place