@inquiline @jdp23 Is this the post you're thinking of?
https://mas.to/@kissane/110793942888550843
I think the Fediverse does face a challenge that norms cannot be reliably communicated through app interfaces or a shared server identity given their diversity, and unlike email or chat platforms, the audience is not well defined if a post has public visibility.
It seems either a norm has to develop that transcends expectations (e.g. check the OP's preferences before posting) or each individual post itself needs to communicate norms about replies somehow in a sufficiently unambiguous way (e.g. I will tolerate any reply to this comment as long as it respects the OP but reserve the right to ignore, for short, a may-ignore-replies policy MIR)
Erin Kissane (@[email protected])
This week, I went over to Bluesky and asked people who'd left Mastodon why they left, and lots of people told me. I grabbed the replies and crunched them and wrote up a summary. I think it's really interesting and often kind of wrenching. https://erinkissane.com/mastodon-is-easy-and-fun-except-when-it-isnt #meta

