Please consider the report button to mean "this person may need to be removed". When you press the button, mods have to stop making the dinner until they know what's happening and that nobody feels unsafe.
If someone needs guidance rather than removal, (CW, global vs unlisted, etc) maybe you can do it?
If you'd like to try, be friendly, be conversational, start by saying "Hello, how are you finding all this?" Let people know you have their back before making them self-conscious or defensive.


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