On April 21st, we are hosting a Relationship Anarchy meetup. We welcome everyone who is interested in these principles of living and connecting with others. You don’t need to have any prior knowledge, curiosity and kindness are enough.

In this session, we are discussing a particular dynamic: veto power. We will introduce what a "veto" is, in the context of ethical non-monogamy, and we invite you to a discussion around it. Do we want to use it? Or do we want to avoid it, and why? We welcome stories of lived experience with making decisions in situations where people are more at odds than in agreement. We want to explore how relationship anarchy can guide us through this process.

If you practice Relationship Anarchy and want to discuss the practical side, if you’re looking for advice or just a chat about common experiences, we hope this meetup feels cozy and helpful.

📅 Tuesday April 21st
⏲️ Time: 19h00
📍 De Opstand, The Hague (ask your network, DM, or e-mail for the address at [email protected])

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Accessibility information: the event is on the ground floor. There is a (steep) ramp for wheelchair accessibility. A quiet room is also available. The Opstand library and books are upstairs and only accessible via stairs. We encourage everyone to refrain from wearing products containing fragrances, to wear a face mask, to do a self-test test and to stay home if you have cold-like symptoms. Face masks and self tests are available on location. Send us a message if your accessibility needs are not covered.

#relationshipanarchy #polyamory

Join us on Sunday 19th of April, at 13:00 for a workshop on how to start using Reticulum.

Reticulum is the cryptography-based networking stack for building local and wide-area networks with readily available hardware. Reticulum can continue to operate even in adverse conditions with very high latency and extremely low bandwidth. The vision of Reticulum is to allow anyone to operate their own sovereign communication networks, and to make it cheap and easy to cover vast areas with a myriad of independent, interconnectable and autonomous networks. Reticulum is Unstoppable Networks for The People.

*Bring a laptop/smartphone if possible!

📅 Sunday April 19th
⏲️ Time: 13h00 - ?
📍 De Opstand, The Hague (ask your network, DM, or e-mail for the address at [email protected])
💶 Donation-based

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Accessibility information: the event is on the ground floor. There is a (steep) ramp for wheelchair accessibility. A quiet room is also available. The Opstand library and books are upstairs and only accessible via stairs. We encourage everyone to refrain from wearing products containing fragrances, to wear a face mask, to do a self-test test and to stay home if you have cold-like symptoms. Face masks and self tests are available on location. Send us a message if your accessibility needs are not covered.

#recticulum #lora

On April 14th, we will discuss chapters 1, 2, and 3 of the book “Undoing Suicidism”, by Alexandre Baril.

In Undoing Suicidism, Alexandre Baril argues that suicidal people are oppressed by what he calls structural suicidism, a hidden oppression that, until now, has been unnamed and under-theorized. Each year, suicidism and its preventionist script and strategies reproduce violence and cause additional harm and death among suicidal people through forms of criminalization, incarceration, discrimination, stigmatization, and pathologization. This is particularly true for marginalized groups experiencing multiple oppressions, including queer, trans, disabled, or Mad people.

Anyone is invited, whether you read it or not. The book is available to download at https://temple.manifoldapp.org/projects/undoing-suicidism

DM for the location.

📅 Tuesday April 14th

⏲️ Time: 19h00

📍 De Opstand, The Hague (ask your network, DM, or e-mail for the address at [email protected])

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Accessibility information: the event is on the ground floor. There is a (steep) ramp for wheelchair accessibility. A quiet room is also available. The Opstand library and books are upstairs and only accessible via stairs. We encourage everyone to refrain from wearing products containing fragrances, to wear a face mask, to do a self-test test and to stay home if you have cold-like symptoms. Face masks and self tests are available on location. Send us a message if your accessibility needs are not covered.

#bookclub #opstand #denhaag #suicidism

🎥 Do You Know That I’m With You (WIP) بىلەمسەن مەن سەن بىلەن بىللە
by Darya Andijan (Uyghur/Uzbek, Netherlands, 2024-ongoing). Docu-fiction.

This short movie is an artistic research project exploring political erasure of female history in the Uyghur region of China. Central to the film is Gülem, a mystical figure from Uyghur oral tradition linked to carpet weaving, whose fragmented legacy symbolizes silenced female makers. Through critical fabulation, myth-making, and Sufism, the director embarks on a journey across Transoxiana to piece together Gülem’s presence. The film weaves together imprisoned poet Gulnisa Imin’s verses, read by Uyghur women in diaspora, multi-voiced narration, and archival footage. Poetic yet narrative-driven, it evokes Gülem’s enduring presence through voices, images, and texts, confronting memory, resistance, and identity.

Discussion by @daryaandijan, filmmaker and artistic researcher from Central Asia.

📅 Friday April 3rd
⏲️ Time: 19h00 – 22h00
📍 De Opstand, The Hague (ask your network, DM, or e-mail for the address at [email protected])

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Accessibility information: the event is on the ground floor. There is a (steep) ramp for wheelchair accessibility. A quiet room is also available. The Opstand library and books are upstairs and only accessible via stairs. We encourage everyone to refrain from wearing products containing fragrances, to wear a face mask, to do a self-test and to stay home if you have cold-like symptoms. Face masks and self tests are available on location. Send us a message if your accessibility needs are not covered.

🎥 Castration Movie by Louise Weard (Eng subs, Canada 2024/2025). Ongoing anthology drama film series. 
Movie Anthology I: Trans sex worker Michaela mentors her newly-out friend Adeline while pursuing motherhood in Vancouver. Production assistant Turner slides toward inceldom as his relationship falls apart.
Movie Anthology II: Michaela navigates political and gender issues affecting marginalized people while trying to maintain her integrity as others attempt to manipulate her for their purposes.

Content Warning: many, we will inform specific ones before each block.

📅 Tuesday March 31st (Trans Day of Visibility)
⏲️ Time: 10h00 – 22h00
📍 De Opstand - The Hague (DM for the address), Snackbar Frieda - Rotterdam, @ACU.nl - Utrecht

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Accessibility information: the event is on the ground floor. There is a (steep) ramp for wheelchair accessibility. A quiet room is also available. The Opstand library and books are upstairs and only accessible via stairs. We encourage everyone to refrain from wearing products containing fragrances, to wear a face mask, to do a self-test and to stay home if you have cold-like symptoms. Face masks and self tests are available on location. Send us a message if your accessibility needs are not covered.

Weaving on jute (event only for trans and queer non-EU immigrants, asylum seekers and refugees)

20th of March
14:00 - 18:00 library's open with free snacks and tea
18:00 - 21:00 we start weaving together
Location: Opstand, Hangout 070

Mindful weaving on jute as a meditation practice. This tactile and rhythmic experience can help anchor our mind in the present. It provides an opportunity to slow down in a fast‑paced world, offering a space where we can be creative and reflective.

The library is for those of us who had to leave our lands and find new ways to build a life where we can be ourselves.
This library's main intention is to build a community through having books we can discuss together, creative workshops, film screenings, bookclubs, and many more!
It's a third space for the community, with amazing books to check out.