We are at home talking about products but not about #affections, #sorrow and #sex.
https://thesparkmag.substack.com/p/why-power-and-wealth-stop-caring?r=1vlkkg
Todd Vickers
@ToddVickers
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"One-on-one #relationships aren’t the problem if they aren’t imposed upon by belief, if someone’s intrinsic #sensibility is coming alive and they’re exploring newness with one person when they can’t find others to do that with. It’s a journey of #discovery with the person they would rather be with than any other they know. That’s a snapshot of current reality, not a permanent #commitment."
“The pendulum was swinging. The #conformist in them said this is wrong. The #rebel in them did it anyway. Neither side was #free, because neither side had looked at the rule itself and seen that it had no authority.”
"... I-It: One person exists as an end (intrinsically meaningful), the other as a means (valued for what they provide), like a boss-employee #relationship where the employee matters only instrumentally. Does Buber’s two-part framework miss something purely #transactional?"
The sexual repression loop.
"The cooking ruins the vegetables, and then the ruined result is used as evidence that the vegetables were always bad unless you cook them a certain way, even as those who wrote the recipe are fattening themselves on forbidden fruit, breaking every #moral and legal code they preach through covert #exploitation of the vulnerable, including children, while condemning the very thing that is its opposite: open, truthful, adult #sexuality."
"A man who argued that patriarchal civilization maintains itself through sexual repression was first exiled, then prosecuted, then imprisoned, then had his books burned, then died in prison (in the US.")
"Commitment can exist without any affection, and #affection can exist without any commitment. #Commitment is a means to other ends, turning the #relationship into an instrument rather than something that exists for its own sake. "
"...there are women who pursue their instinctive joys with men but interact far less unless they show integrity. This is sexual mutuality where sexuality is an end unto itself. Such interaction renders that sexuality less harmful."
The 20th century’s most horrific evils were carried out by societies soaked in religious tradition, proving religion is no safeguard against wrongdoing.
