I'm tired of moronic anecdotes being offered in the replies when I cite the actual scientific consensus that sex addiction isn't a real thing. (Neither is porn addiction.)

I frankly don't care if your lived experience with sex/porn involved a prolongued unhealthy relationship. That doesn't make your compulsions a clinical fucking addiction.

If you want to try to argue scientific consensus with me, save me the trouble and just block me instead.

Howdy! I've been remiss in following up on Cat's @catbailey situation. Sufice it to say, she's not out of the woods yet. Our last post was well shared, but resulted in only about $20 in donations last I spoke with her. The big asks remain the same (gas bill, storage unit) but in addition her family is about out of groceries, and will need to visit her doctor and pay out-of-pocket to get one of her medications refilled.

I'm raising the goal by $500 to hopefully cover those expenses, along with the cushion from rounding up last time. Please, if you can afford even $5, every bit helps get us a step closer, and if even that's too much, we'd appreciate you sharing with your network on the Fediverse and/or Bluesky where she's @blackcatswhitehats.org

$597/2500 raised

Best to use Venmo/PayPal/CashApp, but GoFundMe is appreciated too and good for higher latency needs. Expect an update to the GoFundMe tonight.

GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/aid-for-cat-and-her-kids-in-crisis?lang=en_US
PayPal: https://paypal.me/catalystediting
Venmo: @BlackCatHackers
CashApp: $BlackCatOps

Edit: Sorry y’all, meant to bump the total as I heard back from Cat yesterday (2025-07-23) but life. Many thanks to everyone who donated in that time and was wondering WTAF was going up with the total being untouched.

Hoooly shit. The horrible takes on the Tea app hack.

Yes, vibe coding and lack of a security team got them into this mess - and AI is hell,

Simultaneously, the gleeful dudes exposing their the private details of their entire user base of mostly women trying to stay safe and alive to the internet (and almost totally dude commenters giggling about it) show exactly why the app was very much needed. This is also true.

Ukraine's military intelligence agency breached the servers of the Russian occupying government in Crimea.

The GUR says it compromised Russian leadership accounts on various platforms and collected more than 100TB of data before wiping servers on Friday.

https://newsukraine.rbc.ua/news/cyber-blast-in-crimea-ukrainian-intelligence-1753431641.html

"Two sexes," they say. "Any others are unnatural"

MUSHROOMS: but we have 17,000 sexes. Whoops sorry just discovered another one. Make that 17,001.

"The female of the species," they proclaim, "is the one that carries the fetus to term. Males can't get pregnant. It's unnatural."

SEAHORSES: but our males do.

"It's so simple," they declare, a little nervously, "If you were born with a penis, you're a male. Boom."

SPOTTED HYENA: but our females have penises.

"If you were born with a vaginal canal, you're a girl," they scream. "If you weren't, you aren't. End of story."

TURTLES: but our males are. and they can even breathe through them.

"Biological sex can't be changed," they shriek, self-righteously."That's just science".

CLOWNFISH: but we do it all the time

"You can pretend to be a gender you weren't born as, they gasp, assuring themselves that surely this time they will emerge victorious, "animals can't just up and change their chromosomes. That's common sense."

BUTTERFLIES AND MOTHS: but we can. explosive chromosomal macroevolution is literally a part of our lifecycle.

"But chromosomes determine biologi-"

BEARDED DRAGONS: ours are determined by the weather

"But the Bible says male and female he made th-"

BLUEHEADED WRASSE: all of us are born female

"But you can't just wake up one day and deci-"

GROUPER (MALE): we literally do.

"But gender isn't flui-"

GROUPER (MALE): sometimes we change back

"But you can't just pick what gender you're going to be on any given day!" They shriek, "It doesn't work that way!!"

GROUPER (FEMALE): ahem

Regular reminder:

If you see someone use the term "porn addict" in a conversation, they are spreading an unscientific belief about human sexuality.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201808/science-stopped-believing-in-porn-addiction-you-should-too

Have been dark for safety reasons*, resurfacing because emergency critical help need. And yes, I am actively looking for work.

Note: It's come to my attention that there may be a narrative that is... negative/disbelieving... floating about this and/or me. To those spreading it, may you find yourself in my position (complete with personal details I'm not sharing) in the near future, and may you receive the same treatment you are directing at me. Those with concerns, see @ajn142's post on the matter.

UPDATE4.3a:

Kinda out of groceries. Fended off water bill and phone for now, trying to figure out other stuff (like power and 'net), trying to figure out cat litter (and kludged a high-sided litterbox because OF COURSE one broke) -- THANK YOU, those who have helped/boosted!!!

Also need to get a big ol' sun hat, because apparently now the usual sunscreen ingredients cause a rash on my face/neck.

Still running out of meds and need an in-person appointment before they'll prescribe more. All out of pocket.

Storage unit at risk of auction, DMV is pissed about the car insurance, and I had to choose between [redacted] and "buying food" a couple weeks ago. (Safety for self/kids comes even before food, but I really didn't need this garbage.)

If y'all could boost @ajn142's post (NOT THIS ONE -- partly the [redacted] thing) I'd REALLY appreciate it. https://infosec.exchange/@ajn142/114899212902339078

I did venture back into making my own laundry soap out of necessity and discovered a recipe that works weirdly better than nearly anything else I've used and doesn't cause skin reactions or destroy the fabric. Yay? And if we're going to have 99F weather the clothesline is perfect.

Moving previous updates to the very end of this to reduce TL;DR.

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@ajn142 has been trying to rally on my behalf here. His latest post on the subject has more info; please boost that. https://infosec.exchange/@ajn142/114899212902339078

Whatever you may think of me, my kids and the cats don't deserve to suffer.

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*Among other things the egg donor resurfaced; all social media is being stalked. If you know why I went NC (no contact) with her you know why this is a major safety risk for myself and my family.

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Older updates:

UPDATE3: Car insurance cancelled as of midnight last night. And out of groceries; need to do a BJ's run for things like milk, eggs, flour, coffee, etc; staples, you know? GFM is "still processing" help from 3-4 days ago. (That's food if it doesn't get eaten by fees. I xfer things to the bank at the last second to mitigate that when I can, but it doesn't always work.)

Trying to figure out how to pay for an in-person doc appointment, too, since there's a (fortunately VERY cheap) med refill I need but they won't until I see them in person again.

I do have some actually viable job leads finally; pivoting a bit and finding out what "things I am fish-swimming-level good at" is called as a job title helped A LOT.

Still jobhunting for something steady. Temps high 90s-100s all this week and into next. Utilities shut off very soon, including power (Friday) and water (any time now.) If those shut off, four figures each to get back on. Plus 'net/phone.

UPDATE2: Phone ($100) turns off tomorrow (29th). Bank fees attacked, and I do not appreciate companies that force ACH payment and sit on it for a week, thereby causing more fees. Car insurance is up a creek.

UPDATE: Water, power, net stay on. I think phone as well if bank fees didn't attack. THANK YOU. Cats are fed, too; there are many many appreciative and grateful purrs and nuzzles.

Now need to figure human food. Ramen is apparently bad for my system. Fortunately I cook, but nearly out of staples (flour, sugar, milk, etc.)

In what may be a Canadian first, a human rights tribunal has affirmed the right of an immunocompromised person to seek workplace accommodations.

Disability advocates are praising the decision, saying it broadens the concept of accessible workplaces.

https://pressprogress.ca/human-rights-tribunal-immunocompromised-workplace-accommodations/