I rarely have the mental stamina to work very hard on customizing my character. Generally on a first run through, I try to make a character that at least somewhat resembles me. Tall, pale, long reddish/brown curly hair and yellow/light-brown eyes. That’s usually good enough for me. If I’m on a second run or I’m making a non-human character, I usually try to pick a specific trait and then try to design the character around that. If I somehow come back for a third run or more, then it’s all just goofy messing around or slapping the random button if there is one.

The only thing that’s changed since transitioning is that now when I make human characters that look like me, I pick the body type with boobs. I’ve always had long hair and been pretty feminine looking, so not much has changed with the rest.

Unfortunately there is no bulk mail rate. Third class mail is lower cost because it is either: presorted (so it should ostensibly save the postal service on the labor to sort it), discounted for non-profit companies, or is “Every Door Direct Mail” (EDDM) which requires no sorting because it isn’t addressed. EDDM is also often if not usually sent straight to a post office via a third party so it never goes to a sorting plant. Third class mail also doesn’t receive the return service which all first class mail does.

The rate on it should be increased, but they do receive a lower level of service and sometimes save the postal service on the labor to deliver it.

My ethos? I’m not sure what you mean. The postal service is messed up from the inside pretty bad. I think I explain my view on that part.

Do you mean my opinion on the supposed imminent doom of the organization? That’s just hype if you ask me. You cut the service, people will die. The postal service delivers medicine and supplies people in rough areas who need it. I doubt even the cronies in government now would let that happen, not to mention the economic calamity that would come from it happening. The postal service is like the 2nd or 3rd largest employer in the country.

People worry about privatization, but the postal service is in the constitution. Even if the current administration has no respect for the ancient toilet paper, it would be risky for any outside party to invest in taking it over when they could be booted by whatever administration that follows.

The postal service is run by morons. The entire system runs on hierarchy where everyone lies to the person immediately above them because their expectations are unrealistic or impossible. Then every interaction between hierarchy levels is inherently hostile and some jobs in the service exist solely to write up the paperwork to get someone in trouble because the postal service only ever uses sticks and never carrots.

There’s a staggering amount of do-nothing jobs that exist just to make things harder for other workers. For example the postal service hires nurses. For quick, in house medical service? No. So someone with a medical background can arbitrarily decide if a signed doctor’s note, from a doctor, on their letterhead, is valid or not. There’s the safety crew too. What do they do? Oh it’s their job to make sure everyone is wearing USPS approved shoes, wearing seatbelts, and parking correctly. That almost makes sense except most of the time they just sit in their cars all day and only occasionally decide to hide in random places and write up employees for small infractions.

The postal service needs congress to get rid of its insane law forcing the organization to fund pensions 75 years in advance and then it needs to get rid of the thousands of useless middle management jobs.

Native English, poor Italian, barely functional Spanish. I can read Italian and Spanish with a bit of effort and understand both pretty well when spoken, but my speaking is severely lacking in both.

Hopefully the D&D community won’t hate me for this, but my experience with it is that everyone involved wants to be the main character. Everyone has to be quirky and have some kind of bit and it invariably slows any progress and makes the entire experience a drag.

Ah unfortunately that would require a place more substantial than a small bedroom in my dad’s apartment 40 minutes out in the boonies. So I have to essentially wait for my ADHD friends to make plans at their bigger places, which is pretty infrequent since they’re way more happy just hanging out on discord every night than I am.

“Haru Haru” by BIGBANG

Spending money in pretty much any capacity. My financial situation is a good bit better than before; so I do have money to spend on non-essentials, but it’s a struggle every time.

Last week me and my partner went to an aquarium, it was $50 a head for admission. I paid the $100 and spent the next 10 mins pretending to enjoy the aquarium while I ran the numbers in my head to make sure this expense wasn’t going to be the end of me. The anxiety never really went away and as we left I checked my bank account and my budget. I still had like $600 of unallocated funds.

Every time my friends want to do anything that would cost me over $20 I’m apprehensive and I get serious anxiety if I spend $20+ more than like 3 times a week. It’s exhausting.

My go to is to logical point out the absurd number of people there are.

“I’m fat.”

“There are literally millions of people in the world who wish they were your weight. Millions more that are way heavier than you. You’re doing alright, be nicer to yourself.”

Sure two million is technically a small rounding error in a population of eight billion, but it’s true enough. I guess this wouldn’t work in some extreme cases, but I’ve had decent success with it.

I don’t have any canned emotional points though. To connect with someone emotionally you have to let them know they’re heard and understood and try to relate your own experiences if you can.