chunesWhat normally pleasant thing has poverty ruined for you?
FRYDSpending money in pretty much any capacity. My financial situation is a good bit better than before; so I do have money to spend on non-essentials, but it’s a struggle every time.
Last week me and my partner went to an aquarium, it was $50 a head for admission. I paid the $100 and spent the next 10 mins pretending to enjoy the aquarium while I ran the numbers in my head to make sure this expense wasn’t going to be the end of me. The anxiety never really went away and as we left I checked my bank account and my budget. I still had like $600 of unallocated funds.
Every time my friends want to do anything that would cost me over $20 I’m apprehensive and I get serious anxiety if I spend $20+ more than like 3 times a week. It’s exhausting.
CatZoomiesHere is what I do: Host your friends at your place for sports, grilling, video games, playing touch football or soccer in your backyard, etc. Much better activities, make memories, and a lot cheaper, more intimate, and better for everyone’s relationship.
Ah unfortunately that would require a place more substantial than a small bedroom in my dad’s apartment 40 minutes out in the boonies. So I have to essentially wait for my ADHD friends to make plans at their bigger places, which is pretty infrequent since they’re way more happy just hanging out on discord every night than I am.
How do you feel about D&D?
ah, that’s tough. what I’ve done in a similar situation is get the group together to have a chat about the best place to hang out and give people roles to fulfill. that way hangouts go smoothly and everybody is happy with the contributions and effort from everybody else.
also, I am decently financially secure now, and I still get anxious when I spend more than 20 bucks a few times a week. it just goes away more quickly when I can justify it. but I still don’t like to “waste” money on impermanent things like overpriced dinners or activity tickets to something I could have done at home.
what I can say is that a friend group that hangs out, even remotely, on a regular and frequent routine is a pretty great thing. it gets harder as you get older and people’s families and responsibilities grow especially if you’re in different cities