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Can we get an option to mark all crossposts of a post as read?
Can we get an option to mark all crossposts of a post as read? - sh.itjust.works
One of the more frustrating things to me with Lemmy is seeing the same post like seven times. I was thinking maybe there should be an option to long press the crossposts drop-down to get a context menu with the option to mark them all as read this way the could all be hidden from the feed.
Would you enter a relationship with someone with herpes?
Would you enter a relationship with someone with herpes? - sh.itjust.works
Four years ago, a girl came to live with my family to get treatment for her condition from a specialist that’s nearby. Shortly after she got here, we had gotten really close and then romantically involved. At the time I told her we can only be a bit more than friends with benefits and I wasn’t ready for more. I had gone through a string of abusive relationships and I was pretty messed up. It was even one of the things we bonded over. After living with her for two years, she met a man who was mid-divorce and nearly twice her age and left to live with him halfway across the US. I was supportive, but deep down I knew I loved her and I just didn’t have the guts to tell her. She went dark very shortly after that. Apparently he was super controlling and blocked anyone even mildly supportive to her on her devices and social media, but I didn’t know that until recently. I had moved on and after a lot of work, I’m much more confident and ready for a relationship. All the while, I’ve thought of her often and missing my opportunity with her was a huge motivator for my self improvement. Now another two years later, she’s ended things with him and has been telling me about how fucked up this guy was. She’s coming back to check in with her specialist again in a week and a half and I said I wanted to spend time with her again. After a few days of talking and eventually flirting, my old feelings started up again like no time had passed at all. I had decided I wasn’t going to be a coward this time and I’d tell her how I felt when she got here and try to go from there. Then tonight she told me that she found out two years ago that she had herpes. She said her ex held it over her head and said no one else would ever want her because of it and that’s why she stuck with him for so long. Being the person I am, I told her without hesitation that it doesn’t make her unlovable and it would be okay. She’s medicated and asymptomatic, so transmission is pretty unlikely if I use condoms. I’ve been reading about it and it doesn’t seem that bad, but I’m a very anxious person and I’m unsure. A 4% chance or 0.25% chance with a condom is hard for me to really grasp. The consequences of me catching it seems to ultimately just be that I have to take a pill every day for the rest of my life and if things don’t work out with her, I’ll have to have a tough conversation in every new romantic situation until I die. I also fear that she may have come running to me because she already knew my feelings and thought she had a good shot with me because I’m generally empathetic and non-judgmental. That might just be my anxiety and trauma talking though. I plan to talk to my best friend about it tomorrow, but I have a feeling their answer will be between “don’t” and “I don’t know”. I’ll also definitely talk to my therapist about it at my next appointment too, but I wanted some feedback from others and maybe someone with experience although that’s impossible to verify.