i really hope 40 years from now people will look at banning kids from social media the way people now look at the satanic panic of the 80s

@eniko except that social media really IS designed by researchers to be maximally addictive, so I'm not sure that compares fully.

Of course, that part should be banned for everyone.

@larsmb @eniko

Satanic Panic doesn't have a list of victims, but I got this in 2 seconds of searching.

Teens Whose Deaths Were Linked to Social Media:

Molly Russell (14): A British teen whose 2017 death was linked to social media, prompting inquests into Instagram and Pinterest content.
Jordan DeMay (17): Died by suicide in 2026 after a "financial sextortion" scam involving a fake Instagram account, leading to a lawsuit against Meta.
Coco Arnold (17): Died in 2022 from fentanyl-laced pills allegedly sold by an older man contacted through Instagram.
Bradyn Bohn (17): Died by suicide following a financial sextortion scheme, leading to a lawsuit against Meta.
Cameron Murphy (15): Died by suicide; his mother cited his addiction to Instagram and TikTok.
Jools Roome (14): Died in 2025 after a suspected TikTok challenge.
JackLynn Blackwell (9): Died in 2026 attempting a viral social media dare.
Renna O'Rourke: Died attempting a "dusting" challenge in 2025.
Ciara Pugsley: Committed suicide after being bullied on Ask.fm.
Jessica Laney: Hanged herself after being bullied on Ask.fm.
Daniel Perry: Jumped to his death after being blackmailed on Skype.
Audrey Sites: Died from suicide following targeting on Roblox.

@JoeHenzi @larsmb @eniko Dungeons and Dragons was linked to a bunch of deaths in the 80s. It was all bullshit of course, but there is always something we have to blame for 'the state of the kids'

Social media
Video games
Dungeons and Dragons
Rock and Roll
Books

It's always the same thing, just the focus of the panic changes.

@draftexcluder @larsmb @eniko

But those stories weren't real, D&D didn't put out a product designed to exploit your deepest desires, wants, needs. You really need to understand what's happening with social media and your brain.

You also need to understand what evidence is, sorry. There are lists of dead kids, even Facebook has evidence of their product bringing harm to people - but yes, we should defend them....

EDIT: Christ, just SEARCH the topic - there was ONE case they lost. Facebook didn't prevail, there is evidence, there ARE dead kids, think again which side you're choosing here.

@JoeHenzi @larsmb @eniko Facebook is shit, agreed. But it always seems easier to blame the big product than look at what is going on with the individuals. While I agree that social media has problems and is not designed with our best interests, what if social media addiction isn't the cause of a problem, but the symptom.

@draftexcluder @larsmb @eniko

"what if" -- they have evidence themselves that they set out to create - and did create - a harmful and addictive product

society failing is more likely caused by it (Cambridge Analytica) than social media being a symptom

it causes addiction, we're negotiating a way to stay addicted right now...

EDIT: I don't disagree society is utterly failing, but I don't blame FB for it nor think we are escaping to FB. It's all the same problem.

@JoeHenzi @larsmb @eniko I'm not on the side of Facebook (and other social media) - it needs to be regulated harshly. But I am against banning stuff. Banning stuff just leads to people getting access through deceitful means anyway.

The same arguments about addiction were made about video games, Dungeons and Dragons and books. Video games and Dungeons and Dragons had hundreds of studies that 'proved' how they addicted kids and turned them to evil.

If anything, books are the addiction that made the biggest societal change, completely changing the mindset of those who read and leading us to the democracies we have today. Older society was in an outrage about how addictive books were for the youth.

Let's just say I'm skeptical about studies that say that things that kids find enjoyable and new are addictive and evil.

I say this as a parent of three kids on social media - all of who use them extensively as communication tools and none of who are addicted. For our family the benefits way outweigh the drawbacks.

@draftexcluder @larsmb @eniko

> Let's just say I'm skeptical about studies that say that things that kids find enjoyable and new are addictive and evil.

You are out right lying to yourself. It's not what people find enjoyable that they feed us and addicts us - it's rage, racism, hate. That's what hooks you, anger. That's why ragebait is the word of the year!

You're acting like someone is about taking something fun from kids.

D&D - there was studies, suicides didn't go up. People are writing about Instagram/Facebook in their suicide notes! You're literally ignoring what's really going on and pretending social media is some great thing when it's given us Trump and the rest.

It's an advertising platform - not a game, not musical expression. It's a company selling you illicit drugs and scam ads.

https://www.reuters.com/investigations/meta-is-earning-fortune-deluge-fraudulent-ads-documents-show-2025-11-06/

https://www.dea.gov/onepill

@JoeHenzi @draftexcluder @larsmb @eniko so this should be an easy one for you; if Facebook is the problem (and it is) why does every piece of legislation that's just appeared around the world target the kids, not Facebook's practices? 🤔🤔🤔🤔

Facebook doesn't care if the kids are (theoretically) gone, it means the heat is off them a bit, and they can ramp up the abusive practices.

@jimbob

What a weird comment - Facebook is the problem, the legislation is wrong. Pretty simple. Get rid of Facebook, still the same. Not sure why you think you "got me" here. Also we protect kids in society. Not sure about you, maybe you don't.

@JoeHenzi so the legislation is wrong, but you're going around here telling the people opposed to the legislation that they...hate kids or something? I guess you're right, social media is fucked up.
@jimbob Yes. That's exactly what happened. There is only ever two options, there is only ever two readings. There is only ever right and wrong and it's social media - you are always on the right side. It's fine, don't worry.
@JoeHenzi @larsmb @eniko I don't think anyone here is arguing that we should allow Facebook & other corporate social media free rein.
Having everyone submit their biometric data & government ID to these companies will help the companies, not users/victims. (reliable data for their algorithms, and selling such data onwards to brokers will make them even more money) This is why Meta, Google,… themselves are lobbying FOR such legislation. It's regulatory capture for their unethical business model.

@pmdj @larsmb @eniko

No where did I mention ID or advocate age controls. You're mislead in thinking there are two options by social media addicts.

@JoeHenzi Well, @eniko specifically talked about being against banning children from social media, and you disagreed. It's difficult to see how you would ban children from doing things unless you verify people's age.
I'm very much wary of banning children from things. Instead, we need to punish, disincentivise, and if necessary, ban the bad actors. They are doing a lot of harm to society at large, not just children. (To be clear, I'm talking about cracking down on Big Tech.)
@pmdj @eniko I didn't even mention banning children from social media. I said the concept that social media doesn't bring harm is a complete and utter lie.

Wow I got blocked for NOT disagreeing with someone.

This place is broken, this is proof social media doesn't work. You pretend it's to connect - it's to create a cognitive bias bubble.

THIS IS NOT SOCIETY THIS IS AN ABERRATION

@pmdj just so you're aware i blocked his unhinged ass for implying i wanted facebook to continue profiting off abused kids
@eniko Yeah, he's made it clear he's not interested in engaging in good faith.

@JoeHenzi @larsmb "Satanic Panic doesn't have a list of victims"

uhh yeah it does actually https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W8Nhvr1X8Kc

The Rise and Fall of Misery Memoirs

YouTube
@eniko @larsmb you should just state your point - if it is that the panic had an effect on people, that's an aside, Facebook has lead to people dying. D&D did not, the Satanic Panic was invented - Facebook has actually led to kids dying. Not sure why you're trying to cover this up so much?

@JoeHenzi @larsmb okay so do something *about facebook*, *legislate against facebook*

don't cut kids off from the rest of society. what, you think no kids ever died from being under the total control of their abusive parents with no way to connect with anyone else?

also you're a real piece of work insinuating over and over that i'm somehow a proponent of facebook in any way, let alone them making a profit off dead kids

@JoeHenzi @larsmb @eniko

What, you mean we actually need to SOLVE PROBLEMS STRUCTURALLY and not just silo off our kids from the wider world?!!?!?!?

do you want kids to die or something smh

@ct @larsmb @eniko silo kids? they should be in school... this is wild, social media is not society, it's an aberration and was what killed kids
@JoeHenzi someone is not queer and has a position of privilege so hard that can't imagine that a hella lot of kids have survived throught the fact that the internet exists.
Dude chill for a moment and try to think clearly, this read was insanity at it's peak. We're talking complex social relationships here, not the fact that we are idiots that still use fuel to make electricity instead of solar panels. This isn't a maths problem, sadly, and if it was treated as such, I would be hella worried.
@Nawer_Rapter this is really unfair - i'm not against the internet, I'm speaking against kids being on Facebook - it's weird the "privilege" means being *for* kids, you're pretending Facebook is good for queer kids and bad for those that aren't. I'm really confused because it's like pure racism/hatred and transphobia there. That's what gets clicks, they produced evidence that's what they are feeding ALL of us. Your stance here is that we should support systems that amplify hate, for profit, because if not I'm using my privilege. There's a direct line between Trump, social media and the current loss of our rights. So wild to me to use sexual orientation to say I'm not allowed to point out reality.
@JoeHenzi and did you see, by any chance, someone trying to defend facebook in here?
I honestly thought at this point you were just saying fedi is shit cuz it's a social media, by self-definition nontheless
Don't you see you don't have anyone even remotely saying what you're trying to say they said in the entire conversation?
My dude you're fighting an invisible ghost made by your own here, you can say "sorry, we're on the same boat, I just went of the rails for a moment",it happens to all of us
@Nawer_Rapter I mean, I get your point about connections though social media but I reject it because no it's not good. Even here, it's not. Facebook is just weaponized against us. I don't want to be here now really, I think it's hurting both of us to be honest.

@JoeHenzi I'm just honestly trying to convey the complete information of what is happening here,would be muting shit out of this if didn't want to so don't worry if I get tired I'll just go and shut up

I just see a well-intended person getting the wrong idea for reasons related to a lack of, well, seeing around what little some people have out there, as in, for reals, some of us had nothing besides the internet for so SO long
Age bans are applied for THE INTERNET, not Facebook and TikTok, sadly

@Nawer_Rapter noooo

i'm not for age bans though, i never once said that... i HATE anyone asking for ID

but I also think like social media is a fucking cancer and there are dead kids - so maybe, like, get rid of all of it... even this?

@JoeHenzi I get it big corpos suck ass, and nobody said the opposite.
But to say "kids belong to schools, no social media" when WE'RE TALKING THIS on a social media, it's a statement that... gonna say it simply, what the fuck? Sounds horrendous.
Social media is an umbrella term, first of all, and a lot of forums enter on that regard (hello whatever the hell reddit is).
And if schools are a place for kids I was never a kid I guess, neither a lot of folks i've known.
Lucky me that isn't permanent

@Nawer_Rapter Like I'm not blind that kids need more - but we should fix schools then if they aren't the place. Really. Not trust computers, they WILL require us to provide ID, the thing the OP was rallying against. Schools are different, they gate people, there are background checks in place, etc. I'm realistic but I don't think the open internet is where kids should turn if they need help either - my point is simply we see too much evidence that does not work. Realize, I'm from the AOL days, pre-internet - that's ALSO where kids were abducted and stuff... if you have a market of kids, you'll create a market of sickos... never mind social media challenges that end in death, sextortion cases etc...

And I'm 100% not one to normally fall for "but about the kids" kind of stuff. But like, social media is a cancer on all of us. We're fighting now though we likely agree on most things and just something about this becomes toxic. Mastodon rules - because I can block people - Elon wants to remove that from Twitter....

I'm sorry I'm SOOOOO rigid on this. I just really hate social media, even right now. I do love you as a human though I'm sorry we're at odds.

@JoeHenzi I do hate social media too of course
But then again what qualifies as social media isn't black and white.And while I personally found my shit together in forums and videogames (MORE dangerous than social media btw,online gaming is a child predator nest) newer generations find it easier through this.
Actually I used a now defunct one which was very popular in Spain,was also the way I knew how to not be a misoginist and directly know and talk with queers for the first time (unlike games)
@JoeHenzi and tbh the actual tipping point on social media and such becoming hell was smartphones
Before that, you had to be at your home on a computer, images you uploaded or contacts you made were a meaningful decision, not a secondary thought while taking a shit or a tool for harassment open to the public
The problems with social media will come back in private chats, as long as smartphones exist, cuz the private chats are how child predator a get and share their shit
Smartphones make It easy

@Nawer_Rapter Maybe we can cut it both ways - burn Facebook to the ground, keep lines of communication open. It's the algorithm we're mostly upset with anyways, it's what's killing us...

I can't even go into what's been happening in my city. Just that we have a long wikipedia page of race riots and the new media is using Facebook to start another one here - they've used it for genocide in Asia.

@JoeHenzi yeah usa has a long ass tradition of being fucked up beyond repair. Though the impact this kind of stuff had on there compared to other countries is mostly related to the insane ways the infrastucture is built.
A lot of analysis has been done about this already by smarter people, but all of it builds a lot of untrust and isolation, and the rise of the fascism on the last decade. It's insane that 1/3 of all households have cameras now.
I should check my city news too.
Have a nice day.

@Nawer_Rapter also very sorry, I *am* emotional over this

- lost a brother to suicide (a second to an overdose)
- run a charity paying for child funerals

I'm not for ID checks, I refuse to use sites that require it. But I'm also very against dead kids. Totally get the problem with MAGA screaming over things like drag shows, hate to come off like one of them... but I think social media appeals to the lowest, it's *why* we have MAGA in the first place.

@eniko

got the classic reply guy block but: I think these guys lack imagination in both how socmed can be improved (especially for over 14's) and how children can be hurt in ways that arent socmed's fault

@eniko

i need these dudes to understand a large chunk of the financial push for socmed bans is the establishment is mad kids are propalestine. Not to say the stories of bullying arent real but this was never the only or best solution to bullying or depression

@eniko

i agree kids should be in school. looking forward to seeing you two at the anti religious homeschooling protest:)

@JoeHenzi @larsmb @eniko
"Satanic Panic doesn't have a list of victims"

The West Memphis Three would like to have a word...

@healyn @larsmb @eniko

In this story those three are: Mark Zuckerberg.

This is an excellent gotcha moment. You're saying Mark Zuckerberg is innocent and those kids above aren't dead. That's cute for you.

@healyn @larsmb @eniko I mean, I'm really sorry this is lost on you so easily. There was a panic over no one dying. In this case, kids did die, you've seen their names. You ignored that and compared Mark Zuckerberg to innocent kids. He was found to be liable in a court of law.
@JoeHenzi @larsmb @eniko When did I mention Zuckerberg?
@healyn @larsmb @eniko Yes, you're right - explain the link please, the point of your comment.
@JoeHenzi you said the satanic panic did not have a list of victims. You literally said that. And you're wrong
@healyn oh, you you only read 7 words and refused to think - yeah... sorry you're really lost here
@JoeHenzi good luck with everything Joey
@healyn I love how you don't understand the post you're in and what you've raised but also used a pet name for me pedophiles use.
@healyn How are they victims, you don't see how they are Zuckerberg here? Your comment is that social media is good because drive by "gotcha" posts are important when you don't understand context and then pretend you're better than the other person I think.