Lightfighter

I have a friend who has made comments that I have #ADHD for years. Just every once in a while. I never thought much of of it until last weekend when I decided to look into it.

Holy Crap! That makes so many things make sense. From struggling in elementary school, why I frustrated my parents so much, why what they tried was like torture for me, serial hobbies, and so much more. Here I am getting close to 60 and I am just figuring this out.

Apr 8 at 2:05amWeb
Show threadPomegranate Pirate 🏳️‍🌈🏴‍☠️1d ago
@Lightfighter it's mind blowing isn't it?
Show threadLightfighter1d ago
@Pomegranatepirate It hit me like a ton of bricks. I've been creating habits to deal with this my whole life and just thought I was deficient, lazy, unmotivated. This gave me poor self-esteem, terribly self-critical internal monolog...
Show threadPomegranate Pirate 🏳️‍🌈🏴‍☠️1d ago
@Lightfighter I totally feel you. I'm about a year and a half past my diagnosis, and 51. It really does tank your self esteem for many reasons ... Not being able to do the same things other people seem to be doing (all the supposed toos) or doing them and suffering your way through it. I'm old enough now and a bit more eyes open to the grim reality we are in that a lot of what caused me grief is irrelevant at this point. Fuck it.
Had I known though... Things might have been approached Differently, and less feeling like a fuck up.
I'm pretty sure you have some fucking awesome skills and Abilities too. Its Not all bad! It probably makes you an innovative and interesting person.
Welcome to the club!
Show threadLightfighter1d ago
@Pomegranatepirate Thank you. I have accumulated a tremendous breadth of knowledge from hobbies and interests. I've found a career in IT where I can take advantage of my quirky brain with its amazing pattern recognition. I'm looking forward to figuring out how I can make the most of this. But right now, it is mostly a relief, an answer to many questions.
Show threadBarefoot Rambling1d ago

@Lightfighter

Welcome to the late-discovered club. Pull up a chair if you can find one that doesn't have a pile of books on it...

I had the exact same reaction when I found out I'm auDHD (autistic came first, then ADHD got tacked on because, wow). So much of my life makes sense now. It doesn't make any of it better, or the results go away or lessen really. But it all makes sense and having a label to put on that is amazing.

Some tags and a group to follow and use on your own posts as you dive in:

#ActuallyADHD #ADHD
@actuallyadhd

Show threadLightfighter1d ago
@barefootrambling Thank you. No, it doesn't solve anything, but at least I can maybe give myself some grace, and maybe find some more coping techniques.
@actuallyadhd
Show threadBarefoot Rambling1d ago

@Lightfighter

100%

Show threadCourt Cantrell does not comply1d ago
@Lightfighter Sending you solidarity and sympathy. I was first diagnosed at age 46 -- and it made so very many things in my childhood, teen years, and adult life suddenly make perfect sense. I've been medicated for two-and-a-half years now, and it's been life-changing. I hope all goes smoothly for you as you find the path that works best for you! ☺️✌️🖖🤘
Show threadLightfighter1d ago
@courtcan Thank you, I appreciate it.
Show threadAnarchist Trans Ace Pirate1d ago

@Lightfighter

congratulations! I figured out I had autism from 45-50. better late than never 😁

Show threadLightfighter1d ago
@coolcalmcollected Thank you.