@normjess yes indeed. After years of abuse, and lack of choice, it feels good to be able to make those choices as to who is in my world or not. Even simple things like how I want to dress/present myself. There is so much joy to be had, honestly. Also, a lot of time, people who are weird about how someone else looks/dresses etc are often jealous they don't have to courage to do the same and not conform, as it were.