As an almost 70 year old man, I have some advice for young men.

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1. Your voice doesn't need to be heard. In fact, realizing that you don’t HAVE to have an opinion on everything and voice opinions or ideas in meetings or social gatherings, is amazingly liberating. You can actually just shut up, and relieve yourself of all that effort and stress. Let Bob utter his embarrassingly dumb idea, let Shirley have a say. You can just let it be for the most part

2. Sissyphus was a stupid allegory.

Doing something useless, and especially for which you get no praise, is not as soul destroying as people would have you believe. If you like rolling a rock up a hill and having it roll back down, it's actually huge fucking fun if you just embrace the irony and the fun of rolling a rock, building up a sweat, and then letting that sucker go tumbling down.

Corollary: you don't actually need praise. Just enjoy what you do, and try to do it well

3. Sex is far less important than the media, buddies, influencers, and society would have you believe. It's also a fucking time trap. Especially when you are young, your body and society scream at you to want to be in rut all the damn time. It's exhausting. It also steals time and energy from windsurfing, riding a motorcycle, making curry, and brewing beer - which are all more fun, cost less, and don't involve all the fuss and bother.

Make friends with more women, just bc they are interesting

4. Most "Heroes" are just selfish and insecure arseholes. Write down 10 guys who are supposeldly big heroes, and then actually research them. Eight of them will turn out to be total shitheads - greedy, selfish, and pompous fucknuts, and also mostly sex pests

Ergo. Stop looking for heroes, and immediately be suspicious of anyone who claims to be or who other people say is a big hero. This counts for almost exactly 100% of online influencers. They are 100% flogging you scams and grifts and lying

5. Physical strength is overrated. The dude with the six-pack, massive biceps, and thickest neck, is still a thin-skinned animal without fangs, scales, stinger, or horns, who couldn't even outrun a crocodile, let alone any of the big cats. An ape half his body mass is more than twice as strong.

Humans are half blind, half deaf, weaklings, and the weediest person wielding a stone-age spear, can put the biggest muscleman in the grave with minimal fuss.

The weakest woman can squeeze a trigger

6. The "rugged individualist" loner myth, is just that. Hardly anything gets done by individuals. Even the most individual creative occupations, like painters, sculptors, poets, inventors, writers, hardly EVER do their stuff in isolation. Even the grumpiest fucker, like Newton, collaborated, and ALL the big discoveries and inventions involved a lot of collaboration and exchanges of ideas

Next time some guy wants to sell you on the idea on lonerdom, know for sure it's a scam. It's always a scam

7. The "Alpha Male" schtick is a leaky bag of bullshit on stilts. There is no science behind this, it doesn't survive a scrutiny, and the guys who claim the title are always insecure, overcompensating, grifters. Allways.

It is also obviously bullshit. You can't possibly be top dog in everything, and the more you are top dog in anything, the narrower that specialty will be, and the shorter the time before someone better comes along. All that trumpeting actually tells you he's an insecure numpty

8. Trying to BE an "alpha" is an exhausting, fruitless, time suck. People who actually are leaders are typically stressed, exhausted, and miserable, and find out that their actual power is very narrow and always comes at a steep price. Rather just be a comfortable and useful "beta". In fact, be a fucking delta and use the spare time to be useful and do things YOU enjoy. Let other overzealous morons bash their lives apart on the crags of merciless fortune

Rather learn to juggle, whistle, or cook

9. There are no exclusively "masculine" jobs or pastimes, and you will enjoy life far more if you give that whole story the middle finger.

If you like Barbie Dolls, cooking, or knitting, fucking go for it. Don't let some narrow-minded and insecure scold put you off your thing. Do your thing, mix with others who do thing, and help the less skilled do thing. If you sucked at thing but enjoyed it, master small slices of it, and show others how you did that and how you fuck up. You can be that guy

10. You don’t have to "leave a mark", "go down in history", and you sure as shit won't "put a ding in the universe". Just be a person, live your life being as helpful as you can, and enjoy what you can of the journey. 100% of those remembered by history weren't much like the history, and everyone is much more Ozymandius than King Arthur

The universe is one fucking huge and weird place, and a million Steve Jobs holding hands in a chain would neither be noticeable to the universe, nor interesting

11. On the whole, women have had a raw deal for the entire history of the species, and the reason you aren't getting as much physical attention or getting a great job or a nice house is not their fault. Be nice to women without expecting to be compensated for it. They have more than enough shit on their plate, so be understanding and helpful, and try not to get in the way or make things worse for them

Make more women friends, you might be surpised at how nice that is

Also, women aren't a prize

12. Consider a great many patently foolish and ludicrously risky things. I'm not saying DO them, because that would mostly be foolish, but CONSIDER them. Consider joining the SAS, being a supermodel, driving a formula-1 racing car, competing in the Isle of Mann TT, being a Michelin Star chef. Think through what it would take, would be like, and what it would likely cost in blood and money

Explore them, deeply feel them, and for the most part, thank fuck you won't ever do them. Learn about you

If you have enjoyed or found these useful, maybe consider reading my short stories or books, and consider leaving a review.

About half of my shorts are available for free at Physician's Weekly, my eBooks are on Kobo, and my paperbacks are orderable at most any bookseller. My novels are mostly about endearingly psychopathic girls.

First read the free chapters, though.

My fiction is as pithy, but has far more murder and amusingly fatal accidents

@screwturn
Days away from my 77th birthday, I can only welcome your analysis. Human beings are, like bees and ants, a necessarily social species. None of us would survive long on our own. And the image of the male hunterer/female gatherer is a myth. "Make friends with women" is sterling advice. Thank you for your thread. Now I'm going back to my porridge and watching the red squirrel from my window before setting off to drive a hundred miles. To visit an excellent friend. Yes, a woman!
@screwturn Thank you. I needed this more than I thought.

Lev has convinced me to add one more

13. The universe, this world, societies, and individuals (especially women) do not owe you respect, recognition, responses, or a point-by-point refutation or rebuttal of your opinions.

Nobody is obliged to engage with your overly long, confused, and maladroit posts.

If you dump, uninvited, your manifesto of a post, peppered with links to blogs and whatnot that you didn't really understand, and people tell you to fuck off, then by all means do so

@screwturn at nearing 77, yes to all of this

@screwturn

I'm impressed with your thread. ... and thank you! 🫶

@screwturn

I am an old guy too, but I think I am going to download this thread - print it out in 100pt fonts, and put it up on my walls..

The condensed wisdom of the universe, right here. Thank you

@screwturn Modern world. Archeology has been showing that women were warriors, etc.
@CStamp very few, very seldom, and vastly counterweighted by millenia of servitude and mistreatment

@screwturn @CStamp look up the recent archeological news on DNA testing of samurai. If I remember correctly: half the samurai were women.

If research focusses on known stuff almost always assumptions/known facts change 🤓

@Frieke72 the samurai DNA findings are fascinating. ancient DNA keeps overturning assumptions that were based purely on artifacts and written records. similar thing happened with Viking burials — DNA showed way more diversity than the stereotypical image suggested

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@Frieke72 @screwturn Yep. Bias of archeologists has played a part in this. Ancient graves of women buried with weapons have been looked at again because the men who had found them had given explanations other than the women had actually used them. Women warriors was something the male archeologists hadn’t considered.
@CStamp @Frieke72
All true, and all valid. Just not typical or frequent across the 300,000 years and distribution of the species.
Also, such cases don't really suggest that the OP was wrong that women have generally had a raw deal (and still do)
@screwturn can't agree with you about sex, it's been one of the best things about my life, but everything else, yeah.

@3DBill @screwturn

+ 1 and same also for 'playing with oneself'

@screwturn Do help make it better than you found it, no matter how big or small that improvement is.

@screwturn @janeishly My grandmother taught me to crochet. In the USA, these things are often done in rural areas during the looong Winters. If burly farmers can enjoy stitchwork, anyone can.

I used to carry my mother's old, unused purses around. They were perfect for carrying my toys and other small bits in, especially on vacations.

These things are all learned behaviors. What's the modern phrase? "Don't start no trouble; won't be no trouble." Teach your children better.

@screwturn "People who actually are leaders are typically stressed, exhausted, and miserable, and find out that their actual power is very narrow and always comes at a steep price."

In autocratic systems, yes.

In healthy, leaderful groups, leaders care for themselves, better or at least know where they aren't & are working on it it 🤣. They get leadership includes being real about capacity (including their own), and try to adjust what they say and what they do so they match.

And lead together.

@slowenough @screwturn Difference between leaders and rulers?