Another change in my thinking that’s been helpful for me :
If I am doing something that doesn’t go as expected, my automatic reaction is to call myself “stupid”
When this happens now - and I catch it - I change it to “silly” to extend myself compassion.
Silly is no big deal after all! 😊😉
Making this change has meant “stupid” is showing up less and less and silly more and more.
I feel better in those moments than I used to feel 🥰
@NicelyManifest definitely! They are shaping the moment but aren’t the moment.
I often remind myself (again, when I catch myself!) that emotions last 90 seconds and than we hold on to them.
I don’t know of all that in detail but it keeps me mindful that it’s like choosing to continue in each moment and there is always a point I can stop it and change things.
I shape my reality and that feels better and more powerful than letting my autopilot pass by. Reading about IFS helps
@lifewithtrees Oh how very splendid! I have had decades of mental health issues so learnt greatly and like to share.
Mindfulness and the game of Go are the 2 best things I ever learnt.
The first let me address my decades of bad temper. Within 2 weeks was able to reframe it (not express or suppress) and have not lost my temper now in nearly a decade.
IFS ?
lifewithtrees
Neil Moffatt