@wdlindsy
I perhaps translated not quite right from my native language. What I meant to say:
The male self image is centered around "what I am able to do". My hypothesis: This (while it has largely become a goal in itself) might have its root in the "traditional" role as breadwinner for the family. Their worth for their family ("what I can give") stems from what they are able to do / achieve.
That's all no justification. Especially not for lying to yourself about your abilities.
And we (as a society, but especially mal subculture) should have abandoned this way of thinking ("breadwinner") long ago, not only because of #patriarchy.
But I am looking for systemic root causes beyond ---let me employ a bit a of hyperbole (my apologies for this already) --- beyond "they're male, so mentally impaired, no other explanation needed".
Which seems where a substantial fraction of discussions on these type of problems seem to end up on social media.
As an accurate statement of symptoms it's enough, I agree. For me though, then pretty soon comes the question of the root causes.
It make a difference, if we think the current state of affairs is (a) biologically unavoidable, (b) a male sub-cultural problem (c) a larger system problem that leaves this problem in male subculture, or (d) something else.