Violet@Ice:~$💜​​​Apr 2
Do any other #audhd folx have or suspect they have #avpd? I could use some coping skills before I do irreversible damage to the tenuous social structures I have in place. Or maybe I will anyway, who knows  
Show threadLilith, Mother of DarknessApr 2
@violet I do have #avpd
Show threadViolet@Ice:~$💜​​​Apr 2
@Lunalucardrose20 how do you touchstone? I'm angry and I feel justified to be angry. But I know if I burn all these bridges, I will be wishing I hadn't in two days
Show threadGravement bêteApr 2

@violet not avpd but bpd here. I'd try to let some water pass under the bridges, by:
1- avoiding triggers (muting convos, going less social, switching to other support groups...)
2- occupying my mind until emotions decant (watch series, read books, do crafts, play videogames, sleep...)

Learning mindfulness meditation helped a bit but it's very long and there is no immediate improvement. If you have the room for it, it can be an investment to make for the long run, but I'd avoid trying it for the first time during an emotional crisis.

Show threadViolet@Ice:~$💜​​​
@darckcrystale thanks crystale 💜 I keep having to remind myself that me firing a torpedo into the closest things I have to support structures isn't going to help me long term, even if I do think I'm still right to be angry and probably should find a different group to be around
Apr 2 at 4:20amWeb
Show threadGravement bêteApr 2

@violet I advice having different circles, this way you can vent into one if needed without causing a collapse of your relationships. It can be a forum, a discord server, a wow guild... whatever group you can be part of. This avoids a "all the eggs in the same basket" situations

Also, being angry is not illegitimate, it's just how you react to the emotion that can be destructive. I like to talk about the problems after my emotions settle, to address them instead of building up resentment