seeing another round of "don't favorite posts on fedi"
folks it is a kind and lovely thing to favorite someone's post and anyone who tells you not to be kind and lovely has told you something about themself
it's true that it doesn't particulary increase the distribution of your post but the idea that we're all here to get things distributed as far as possible is pretty weird
@Recalcitrant @leguinian_utopia yes that's the same I was looking for
Just for clarify
@codl still missing forget.codl.fr
it was not forgotten
@Gargron please add fav's to the auto deletion
@Recalcitrant @sarae one way I use likes is this:
My posts ares set to autodelete after X time.
*Except* any post with at least 1* like.
So if I make a toot and want it to not autodelete, I just go and Like it!
* configurable. I set it to 1.
@Limnobotanik @Recalcitrant @sarae oh, wow, it's true! I missed that.
But, unlike Xitter, they cannit go to *your* profile and see all toots you liked.
@awawawa yeah I often use it as a way to let people know I saw their reply in a conversation
or as a "hey, right on"
@sarae @awawawa yes! I sometimes read as +support +love +you’re seen
in disability communities I feel especially it never vibes “they LIKE that I’m having a brutal week,” it’s “they saw I’m having a brutal week & sent me a boop to know I’m not alone”
I think it’s v weird when I see discourse and ppl are adamant it only means “I like this”. Have your friends not been suffering & do you not boop support?
@GPJohnston @moss @awawawa yep exactly this
"hang in there buddy times are tough but I am on Team You and hoping for the best"
@sarae @GPJohnston @moss @awawawa
Sometimes e.g. in the actuallyAutistic group, people post kind of personal things, and even if they didn’t set it to followers only, I sometimes feel it should perhaps stay in the group. Then I just favour it, rather than boost.
Also, I have a pinned post about this very topic 😊
@MsHearthWitch @mycrowgirl @moss @sarae @awawawa The Like/Favourite buttons doesn't only mean "I like this post," no matter what some people claim. It can be:
- I see you
- Support
- I agree with what you wrote
- Etc
@sarae Fringe benefit of starring posts that I discovered is that they then show up when you search using the 'in:library' qualifier.
This is a nice way of not trying to bookmark everything that you might want to find again at a later date.
I am still trying to boost or comment rather than favourite where I can, as I do think these forms of engagement are really important here.
@blag oh I'm a big fan of boosting, obvs
but I also kind of have an idea about "these are the topics I'm sharing news about" and when things are way outside that, it's good to have another tool in the box
I use boosting more like I use sharing articles the the family group texts
@sarae PS. Should have put previous comment in context by saying that I tried for a few months to *only* boost and reply.
This survey, and the replies, brought me back into the starring frame of mind:
Should I start 'liking/starring' posts again? Context: I've tried to be more actively engaged here by forcing myself to only boost or reply but am now thinking about flexing my star button again. #AskFedi #Fediverse #Mastodon [ ] Yes [ ] No [ ] Other, hit reply
@colo_lee @GPJohnston I think people are often coming from a place of believing that others genuinely don't understand how things work, because they recently didn't understand themself
but in this case I'm like, you are correct that the tool doesn't do the thing a similarly-named tool did elsewhere
that is because you are now in a space designed by people who found that tool's behavior elsewhere fairly upsetting
(I notice the same thing about QGIS vs Esri products, in my work life)
@colo_lee @GPJohnston lol I get up every day and try to remind myself about that
and sometimes it really is that way but daaaamn also people are people an upsetting amount of the time 😆
@sarae @colo_lee @GPJohnston it is very nice to assume someone just wants to share newfound knowledge.
maybe it is worded as "advice" because this a style of conversation people are used to.
you can also word it as "something I learned" and hope that others find useful so I am sharing it.
@sarae oh no, not this nonsense again... I remember last time they were saying, "never fav or boost, only leave comments!" as if there aren't enough reply guys already!
actual discussion is good of course, but commenting for the sake of commenting... why?
@lalah that really confused me as well
commenting doesn't increase post visibility in this system, and yeah...unless I have something to say I should keep my mouth shut
hell a lot of the time when I have something to say I should DEFINITELY keep my mouth shut, lol
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