seeing another round of "don't favorite posts on fedi"

folks it is a kind and lovely thing to favorite someone's post and anyone who tells you not to be kind and lovely has told you something about themself

it's true that it doesn't particulary increase the distribution of your post but the idea that we're all here to get things distributed as far as possible is pretty weird

@sarae I’ve not seen the nega-fav posts, what they got against favoriting?
@GPJohnston it doesn't feed an algo so that's a problem, I guess? idk it's a mindset that doesn't fit well with how I use the system
@sarae @GPJohnston It's also policing behavior, telling other people how they should be behaving. I don't like it. Not one bit ...

@colo_lee @GPJohnston I think people are often coming from a place of believing that others genuinely don't understand how things work, because they recently didn't understand themself

but in this case I'm like, you are correct that the tool doesn't do the thing a similarly-named tool did elsewhere

that is because you are now in a space designed by people who found that tool's behavior elsewhere fairly upsetting

(I notice the same thing about QGIS vs Esri products, in my work life)

@sarae @GPJohnston that is a generous read of the situation in your first sentence. I'll try to follow your example and share the assumption of good will ...

@colo_lee @GPJohnston lol I get up every day and try to remind myself about that

and sometimes it really is that way but daaaamn also people are people an upsetting amount of the time 😆

@sarae @colo_lee @GPJohnston it is very nice to assume someone just wants to share newfound knowledge.

maybe it is worded as "advice" because this a style of conversation people are used to.

you can also word it as "something I learned" and hope that others find useful so I am sharing it.

@coba @sarae @colo_lee @GPJohnston

Yep. Stating things as "this is what I do, and here's why" works a whole lot better for me than telling other people what to do.