@mindpersephone I thought about it a bit and I suppose I'm not fully cis but really mostly.

My overall sentiment is that I like being a man. I'd like to be able to switch into a woman's body every now and then, but only with the certainty of being able to switch back. Male is my baseline and what I'm comfortable with.

@mindpersephone I do think about it.

Until a month ago I would have flatly said "cis male."

Since I started a few years ago discovering I like the feel of wearing skirts, and from there looking pretty more generally (e.g., lipstick, nail polish, blouses), I've thought about it and studied the question in myself, oh, a few times a year. Still landing on cis male with fluid gender presentation.

I've more recently started to check in again in a different light. Not that cis male was wrong, or contradictory, or dysphoric, but more that I didn't feel particularly attached or invested in being male.

Now I'm testing different ideas for how right they feel. Agender didn't seem the right fit, so I'm currently sitting a bit with "demimale" to see how that rests with me.

Short answer: Better.

@mindpersephone
Hi, cis dude here.

I thought (wishfully) about being a girl when puberty hit me, but it was mostly/only about sex, masturbation and general horniness. (Not that being trans would have been possible where I grew up but that's beside the point.)

Only after I met some really cute trans people and becoming friends with them I questioned my gender again. I thought a bit about becoming an enby because I really don't care about reproduction and T has some nasty side effects.

@mindpersephone Am cis, considered my gender, came out still cis (but like, Wolf Male not Human Male), so yeah I'm like that Twitter dude!

DEFINITELY the idea of being a woman is "oh fuck no" for me. Being agender or something would be less INSTANT NOPE, but still, I like my gender and I'm keepin' it. :3

I still consider myself nonbinary since I'm not /human man/ male, though. I'm both male and nonbinary and that confuses the heck out of people. :3

@mindpersephone I definitely don't consider myself to be anything other than cis male, but I also dislike the gender stereotype whereby men are meant to be macho idiots, and I mostly dislike male company. (A mixed group is OK, a mainly female group is OK, an all-male group typically feels tiresome and pointless and I'm eager to get away.)

I'm happy to be male, but I wish there were fewer stereotypes about what a male should be. I value my sensitivity, for example.

@mindpersephone Hi, I did not thought of my gender. I'm a CIS-Male and was always into women. There was never any point in my time a thought about this differently and never the idea of being a woman. Of course I had the question what would it like to be if, but no real interesst.
But I'm very interessted about people who live there life differently and am a supporter (equal rights etc.)

For me most important: I speak up, when I have the impression someone is not acting right towards LGBTIQ.

@mindpersephone Good question.

When I was very young, I wanted to be a fireman, and I did not see any problem with this scenario at all.

Sometimes, I imagine what it might be like and I do believe that the trans version of me would be a far more relaxed person, far sexier too. I think there is probably a lot to unpack behind this, because at the same time, I can't imagine not being the that me I am.

Recently for an office move, I wore my man's trousers and a shirt of his; I did feel sexier.

@mindpersephone I can be down for an "Oh fuck, no".

I've consumed a lot of gender-flexible media (thank you in particular, El Goonish Shive), so I've contemplated my own gender and I am very happy in my own skin. Well, happy with the basic structure, would be happier if I could see some progress on fitness, but that's not to do with gender.

I try not to get too tied up in identifying with my biology, but it's so powerfully and comfortably a part of me that it's hard to avoid.

@mindpersephone I feel lucky and relieved that my gender and my biology align.

Also lucky that my sexuality in the broader sense is not particularly complicated.

@mindpersephone Cis male here. I’m the most boring sort of person imaginable: middle class middle aged dad.

I have in fact thought about my gender, at different times in my life, and more so since I started spending more time on the Fedi.

But I’ve always landed at “I’m cis and male, and that’s just who I am”.

Even though I was raised by a feminist single mom, I grew up with a lot of toxic masculinity. Putting that in the trash feels great. So my thing is more “i want men to be better.”

@mindpersephone

I've come to understand and even be envious about the way kids-this-days have grown out of the binary spectrum, regarding their gender identity. Mainly because I see how the gender roles are mostly used as a control strategy by power groups.

As for myself, I don't see how I could identify as a woman and still be me. I'm a quite boring cis-male. So it's not so much a "fuck-no", but there is a barrier to my imagination. As if you'd be asking me how would be to be a planet.

@mindpersephone I'm cis and always have been. I absolutely thought about what it'd be like to change gender, but never felt a need or compulsion to. I actually like being a guy. I have nothing against the idea, it's just kinda "eh, I'm good." I'll do some gender-bendy things like cross dress and wear leggings, but that's about the extent of it.

I am a furry though, if that counts 😹

@mindpersephone I am cis female and have thought about my gender. I think it would be loads of fun to not be my current gender. Peeing my name in the snow?? Fuck yes!! Give me that weapon!

I think switching between genders, like with the flip of a switch, would be awesome. That being said, I am comfortable with my current gender. I don't suffer any negative emotional consequences because of it.

One important factor to consider is my sexuality - I'm bisexual. This might explain my comfort with both genders to a certain degree at the very least.

@mindpersephone

I have tought about this for years. Currently consider myself cis because
Its an easy spot. I was socialized as such and I dont really have that much against it.
The closest label I may use in Queer spaces is Loripsic.
However, I do know I am not a trans man because the idea of beards and lots of hair from HRT is not appealing at all.

I do think I may be a flavour of nonbinary, or a weird Cis-Enby thing, hiding in a very specific micro-label. But since I do not pursue HRT or social transition besides the statement to prefer she/her and ix/ixs as pronouns, I dont feel valid enough for it.

But I do feel weird both in gender and sexual orientation. For example, I label myself as a bi woman, but I often feel disconnected from the label "sapphic", and sometimes i experience my attraction to women as "like a man loving a woman" despite that i am not a man in any level and neither gender non conforming *enough*. (It might be some internalized homophobia where I am unable to take away heteronormativity despite my efforts to deconstruction to heal).

For me, at least, has been a very hard, confusing journey that intersects with childhood trauma and religious trauma.

Thinking alot about this shuts me down and makes me wish to be formless energy orb.

@mindpersephone I have.

I've felt sufficiently detached from gender (and especially from cultural expectations of performance thereof) that the idea of being some form of cisn't has crossed my mind.

And I think the answer is "I'm autistic and cis, and very much in that order, and may perform gender nonconformity as a direct result of this."

Specifically, I got married in a corset and circle skirt made for me by a friend solely for my sensory desires of Squish, Swish, and Shiny. The circle skirt material was a metallic blue fabric I couldn't stop stim-staring at in the shop where I met said friend to be measured, so we chose it; meanwhile, the navy taffeta corset was made not for body-shaping but for even deep pressure, and it helped ground me on the big day.

I have wondered what it would be like to not be a man, and it's not felt right. But I'm not attached to this one either; I just haven't really felt dysphoric either, and the alternatives (plural!) just feel at least as ill-fitting if not more. So I've called myself "inertia cis" 😂

@mindpersephone

I have thought about my gender and my orientation and concluded I like being a guy who likes women.

And I'm okay with guys flirting with me, but really have no interest in doing anything with them.

I feel more comfortable around the openly queer than the openly religious

@mindpersephone a couple decades ago I started writing a story about a gender-flexible shapeshifter in a relationship with a gender-inflexible one, and I researched trans-ness a bit.

I've been a cis male my entire life. I've never been unsure about it. when I ask myself, what if I were a girl, it kinda "does not compute". gimme a skirt and a vagina, sure, that sounds interesting to try, but I'd be a male with a skirt and a vagina. I have no idea what this "male" essence is, but it's me

@mindpersephone

Yes, but I'm happy as I am just being bi.

Then again, as a writer, all my MCs are not male. So maybe I have the best of both worlds.

@mindpersephone @AimeeMaroux

I was AFAB and I’ve always felt like that works for me. Not that I’ve always liked my body. But even when I acknowledge that my life has been circumscribed by sexism, I still wouldnt want to change my gender. Knowing this about myself helps me understand how fundamental trans rights are.

@mindpersephone as on paper I am Cis:

Yes, thought about it, gender I couldn't care less, sex I would miss some practical advantages, but it wouldn't be a huge problem.

Rarely think about it though, because my personal view on myself is "don't touch a running system", so I just go with what I have (thus Cis on paper, technically there probably would be more fitting labels, but I don't like labels)

@mindpersephone I've given it some pondering. So many of my friends, family and loved ones are trans that I feel like an odd one out!

There's no one aspect of what being a man means, that encompasses all men and excludes all non-men. But still somehow thinking of myself as a man is important to me.

Also there was the time @goatsarah offered me an HRT pill and I had a deeply visceral nope-out reaction, despite knowing intellectually that one pill wouldn't harm or change me.

@mindpersephone i personally dont feel a gender almost all of the time unless somebody talks about gender in which case i temporarily become aware, but i just feel like a human, a create that does stuff, sleeps, eats, thinks, imagines, listens, talks, cooks, eats, and philosophizes and so on... it almost never matters in any significant way and isnt even really part of me being in the world interacting with others.

I do think we could all be like this most of the time - just humans 🙂

@mindpersephone for me when I've thought in the past I was simply like, "nah, that's not me."

I do sometimes have thoughts though such as, "I'd make a good looking nonbinary person" when I see myself in the mirror when my hair is puffy and my face is shaven, but thinking myself as anything besides a guy doesn't feel like me