dreadknight11Is it possible to find a friend or partner on Lemmy?
Libbmaybe you should develop a little more?
I mean, one does not ‘find a friend or partner on lemmy’, or anywhere else. Friendship, like love, is something that may happen and that will often not happen but we all need to work for it to maybe happen. Friends and partners are not stored somewhere, patiently waiting for us to need to need/want them ;)
WhiteOakBayouI like the tone of your response. The last sentence is especially insightful.
Well said. It took me many years of my life to realize this.
☂️-back to being alone then, thanks.
Why would that be? It’s just a matter of deciding what one is looking for. Is it a (sex) toy for you to play with? Good for you, but that most probably won’t be a friend/partner (they don’t have battery to power them on will and they have their own needs). Is it a partner/friend? Even better, but don’t hope to find them in the (sex) toy department ;)
There are people like that, you should not lose hope. Those people just don’t advertise themselves like that, and they are not waiting to meet anyone. This just happens when two persons start appreciating discussing with one another. Hence, the necessity to put in some work, and to make oneself available to them too. A few of those persons may even become good friends, with any luck.
「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(he/him)Friends and partners are not stored somewhere, patiently waiting for us to need/want them ;)
I almost forgot I got a basement full of them.
Why is it when I hear ‘basement full of people’ I immediately remember that chapter in McCarthy’s novel ‘The Road’? That scene was so… horrifyingly plausible—not recommended to anyone easily frightened and/or disgusted. A truly wonderful book, nonetheless. Really amazing.
I would say the movie adaptation is a bit easier to watch but still more than quite tense.
Not a good one.
Possible does not mean probable, so yes, it's possible, but don't hold your breath.
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HM King Charles III DG FDI was chatting up a polish girl on here a while ago. Her name was Nicole.
I think she got murdered. Got a picture of a dead body with the usual caption.
I thought that turned out to be fake or disproven that it was the person.
Yeah it did- I was the one who disproved it (or one of the ones)
Captain AggravatedSomebody sent around that same template but with the girl’s face replaced with some gorn, and it spooked THE FUCK out of the mods and admins, to the point that sh.itjust.works blocked any community with the string “nicole” in it.
Why not? I’ve heard of people who have met their spouses through World of Warcraft. I’ve met some friends online over the years. If the vibe is right, you can make connections with people just about anywhere.
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jordanlundI mean anything is POSSIBLE. People meet and date and even get married from online communications all the time.
FrostyTrichsFinding/making friends on Lemmy is definitely possible. There are a handful of people I talk to outside of Lemmy every day that I originally met here a couple years ago.
I think it helps tremendously if you can find places to interact with others that are less combative than the news/politics/etc that can dominate the feeds here. If you have personal interests in music, movies, tv, or even just want to have casual conversations, there are plenty of communities for that here. Those places give everyone a chance to “break the ice” on a slightly more personal level that helps develop lasting friendships.
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"Is it possible to find a friend or partner..." No. And the explanation is simple: it's not possible to find what doesn't exist, and friendships and romances don't exist.
They're two of the ultimate mundane illusions. Lies engineered to keep the horse chasing the carrot hanging from its own head. And even if the horse wakes up to the realization that the carrot isn't even real (it's just a trick from its head), it can't simply stop, because it got an indifferent limbic system, a biologically pre-programmed set of instructions compelling the horse to continue the pointless chasing.
Even when (if) Sisyphus come to the realization that the boulder inexorably rolls down and trying to roll it up is pointless, Sisyphus will continue rolling it up because it's the only thing his gray matter knows, just lies and illusions: the illusion that he, the boulder and the hill somehow "exist" in some kind of "existence", and the lie that there's some kind of global maxima, the lie that enough pushing-the-boulder-up will eventually meet the desired equilibrium, some stasis.
And even if there were any existence and there were any "up there" at the hill he was compelled to be, even if he reached the top of the hill, what then? Will Sisyphus pat himself on his own back, congratulating and praising himself for getting the boulder to roll all the way to the top? Maybe there are other Sisypha up there who'll give him a medal or something...
And the medal will inexorably oxidize and rust, their bodies will eventually decay and the boulder will crumble into dust due to the weather elements... And the hill will undergo erosion, thus making (what's left of) the boulder to roll downhill, alongside the fossilized skull and bones from all the Sisypha up there.
And no one will remember them because there'll be no one existing to remember what supposedly existed: not even the hill or the Pale Blue Dot where the hill once was, a planet long since engulfed by a giant red Sun, which in turn ended up obliterated during a collision with former rogue stars from what used to be Andromeda galaxy merging with what used to be the Milky Way galaxy: used to be because, now, every quantum particle is ripped apart due to how the fabric of spacetime continuum is now infinitely stretched, the Big Rip.
And, if we consider that the Sisyphean boulder got equilibrium, it means that all energetic transformations across the cosmos also have their point of equilibrium, and this means that there's now this cosmic stasis where no energetic transformation happens anymore, the Big Freeze.
In the end, the existent aspect of things, if any, is this: they're lies, it's all illusory. There's nothing, not even the nothingness. It's just illusory electric signals processed by the illusory brain.
"Is it possible to find a friend or partner..." No. And the explanation is simple: it's not possible to find what doesn't exist, and friendships and romances don't exist.
They're two of the ultimate mundane illusions. Lies engineered to keep the horse chasing the carrot hanging from its own head. And even if the horse wakes up to the realization that the carrot isn't even real (it's just a trick from its head), it can't simply stop, because it got an indifferent limbic system, a biologically pre-programmed set of instructions compelling the horse to continue the pointless chasing.
Even when (if) Sisyphus come to the realization that the boulder inexorably rolls down and trying to roll it up is pointless, Sisyphus will continue rolling it up because it's the only thing his gray matter knows, just lies and illusions: the illusion that he, the boulder and the hill somehow "exist" in some kind of "existence", and the lie that there's some kind of global maxima, the lie that enough pushing-the-boulder-up will eventually meet the desired equilibrium, some stasis.
And even if there were any existence and there were any "up there" at the hill he was compelled to be, even if he reached the top of the hill, what then? Will Sisyphus pat himself on his own back, congratulating and praising himself for getting the boulder to roll all the way to the top? Maybe there are other Sisypha up there who'll give him a medal or something...
And the medal will inexorably oxidize and rust, their bodies will eventually decay and the boulder will crumble into dust due to the weather elements... And the hill will undergo erosion, thus making (what's left of) the boulder to roll downhill, alongside the fossilized skull and bones from all the Sisypha up there.
And no one will remember them because there'll be no one existing to remember what supposedly existed: not even the hill or the Pale Blue Dot where the hill once was, a planet long since engulfed by a giant red Sun, which in turn ended up obliterated during a collision with former rogue stars from what used to be Andromeda galaxy merging with what used to be the Milky Way galaxy: used to be because, now, every quantum particle is ripped apart due to how the fabric of spacetime continuum is now infinitely stretched, the Big Rip.
And, if we consider that the Sisyphean boulder got equilibrium, it means that all energetic transformations across the cosmos also have their point of equilibrium, and this means that there's now this cosmic stasis where no energetic transformation happens anymore, the Big Freeze.
In the end, the existent aspect of things, if any, is this: they're lies, it's all illusory. There's nothing, not even the nothingness. It's just illusory electric signals processed by the illusory brain.
A pretty good explanation, to tell the truth, I have similar thoughts sometimes when I go to bed I realize that I am a slave to life and even my freedom is not freedom at all and as long as I live I will not see happiness.
Dude, don’t lean into the ideas that bring you despair, that’s too easy… Look arround, some people shared good advice here. You clearly want human connection, life is bleak but there’s good things and people out there. Not gonna be easy, but start working towards it, on yourself and on your outlook on life.
If this is your only option for socialization… then something is wrong with your life, please do something before settling on this den of shut-ins and literal children.
Am American. Do I um… socialize with the ICE agents roaming the streets snatching people? 👀
(Seriously tho, how the fuck does an American find friends in 2025?)
I’m pretty sure out of the 340,000,000+ Americans, there are probably SOME who aren’t ICE agents.
Yeah so you do have a point though that it seems more challenging to make friends, as a strange new form of mass-hysteria has enveloped the younger population in particular that makes everyone not want to hang out with everyone else and withdraw into their own heads, overthinking everything.
But it’s not the entirety of the nation. Not yet anyway. It just seems that way from what we see and read, but the people who do want friends and connection are still out there doing things. So our challenge if we want to nurture our social lives is be out doing things. Have interests, passions, have energy. If you’re tired and groggy and achy from staying inside, then that’s your cue to stop staying inside.
Do things until you find something something that ignites a spark of some kind of feeling or emotion.
Pursue that thing until that spark turns into a passion.
The passion is shared. There are enough people to guarantee this. It will happen naturally if you’re not deliberately trying to avoid people. The internet and discord-type groups should be your “staging area” not your substitute. It doesn’t matter if it’s Warhammer miniature gaming or rock climbing or reading books, there is someone out there somewhere who wants to share the enjoyment with someone else.
Hey! Didn’t leave out those of us kicked of Reddit. Actually that’s maybe not a great Badge of Honour, socially speaking…
Anything is possible.
The question you have to ask yourself is the probability of it worth making a concerted effort to achieve it?
Hey, the 4 or 5 times I pmmed people on Lemmy were definitely not to scam them. The jury is still out on being a bot, though…
confuserI know reddit sucks and all but check out if your local cities have subreddits or if there are any similar groups on other platforms, usually they are at least somewhat active and always have meetups or groups on other platforms such as discord going or whatever else, people there tend to be sociable in person and still understand internet culture. there are a few of such lemmy communities but not nearly as much as reddit at the moment, that could also be a opportunity for y’all btw if you start your own.
Cracks_InTheWallsReal talk, I love the idea of being part of the Lemmy contigent that ‘crashes’ (see: participates respectfully in) local reddit meetups.
Not a huge board game guy though, which is the most established one in my neck of the woods…
What about meetup.com or other similar websites?
Through that I found a network of people in my area doing niche things on fediverse and other platforms, theres things near me for like coding bootcamp meetup that is a professional networking event basically, and another that is a group of tech related groups that basically function as a local city think tank for improving the area, a couple of these actually but the others I only just recently learned about.
Through stuff like this I found some people running for senate which makes sense in hindsight but was super surprising.
I think meetup is still pretty full in general of groups of old people doing hikes and thst sort of thing though lol but it got me on the path of finding some niches which I had no idea could exist but now I know exist in most cities if we look for them.
If I recall there are a couple meetup-like fediverse platforms popping up now, one of them is actually made by one of the people I found through these irl channels.
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empireOfLove2Maybe, but Lemmy is such a small service that the chances of there being someone using Lemmy, sharing your interests, being compatible with your sexuality, being single, and is somewhere reasonably close to you, is pretty damn low.
sharing your interests, being compatible with your sexuality, being single, being single, and is somewhere reasonably close to you, is pretty damn low.
Unless they’re trans furry and really into Linux.
Do we do meet-ups yet? We don’t seem like going-out types, on average.
But we should start reserving a room at comic-cons, at least.
In a thing like this you can meet kindred spirits but personally I don’t really view knowing someone online and in meatspace as anywhere near equivalent.
Fuck no, in this depression ridden den of denyers and masters of giving up any kind of non-depressive expression is met with anger, cynism and sarcasm, so good luck with getting to know someone.
Doubly so because people here are obsessed with security and 101 of security is to not dox yourself.
SoftestSapphicDon’t do that
No. Impossible. Not even Nicole, the Polish chick from Toronto, has responded to my dick pics.
That’s no reason to give up. Post it here, we’ll respond!
I feel this. I heard staments voice when he was recording a video of his cat and was instantly crushing.
We’re all a little in love with Stamets, anyway, I think.
StametsAw. I hope you will be able to see your contribution here through our eyes, sometime.
You helped make this place chill and fun at a time when many of us were morning Reddit going to shit - and Reddit going to shit was kind of symbolic of many other things going to shit.
And finding you and some others here being great to each-other - that lifted my spirits.
Oh really? Were you?