Giving and receiving feedback is hard but necessary. It often makes people defensive, even when it's meant to help. As a manager, how you deliver it changes everything.

Use this structure. First, describe the specific situation. Then, state the observable behavior. Next, explain the impact it had on the team or project. After that, pause and listen to their side. Finally, work together to find a solution. (1/3)

Remember to be specific, not vague. Talk about the action, not the person. And make it a conversation, not a lecture.

Avoid starting sentences with you in a way that sounds like blame. And don't wait too long to give feedback.

When you're on the receiving end, listen all the way through before you answer. A good question to ask is, What's one thing I could do differently next time? (2/3)