One of the many treats of #ADHD I hate the most: ADHDers have no internal motivation and rely completely on external motivation: urgency, novelty, pressure, competition and the need to belong. Except novelty they require negative emotions: anxiety and fear for urgency and pressure, competition and need to belong require shame. Hyperfocus is not for oneself but caused by seek for novelty.
To have ADHD is to battle negativ emotions all the time by doing stuff for _others_ and not for oneself. >>
>> This is why many ADHDers have a comorbidity like depression, anxiety disorder, codependency or an addiction.
This is why many ADHDers are people pleasers.
Cleaning up because someone is coming to visit? Of course, let‘s do the deep clean in 3 hours!
For myself? There is no motivation. Of course I enjoy a cleaned up and somehow tidy living room. But this is not a motivator. >>
>> The traits coming with #ADHD are not a super power but steady injection of fear, shame and anxiety.
I would trade all the stuff I know because of hyperfocus for not having the negative emotions all the time. I would trade them for being able to do things for myself and not because of external motivators. I would trad eurem for just having this thoughts stop.
Edit: I wrote a lenghty post aout this and other ADHD symptoms https://jascha.wtf/living-with-adhd-between-stereotypes-and-neurobiological-reality/
Over the past months, I've been sharing observations about ADHD in the fediverse. Raw, unfiltered posts about the daily reality of living with this neurological condition. These posts have resonated with many people, but they've also prompted requests for sources, elaboration, and deeper analysis of
@shorterirl No it is good because constant anxiety/fear/shame leads to comorbidities. The constant stress leads to exhaustion.
It is good to havbe a supportive environment.
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