annieWhen I was 16 or 17 years old, I stood with a group of people outside an abortion clinic. I was holding a sign that said, “Choose Life.” I was… | https://anniemueller.com/posts/people-can-change
katherine@annie 🧡🧡 thank you for sharing. I've been really enjoying reading your thoughts!!
@kayserifserif thank you for reading. I love your website.
GreenSkyOverMe (Monika)@annie Good post.
(By the way uteri not uterii)
@GreenSkyOverMe thank you, and thank you!
Keenan
ner3y@annie Very good and important contribution. Thank you!
You've made it into my blogroll as a result. I should have done it a long time ago anyway, but constantly is something else. 😂
Evan Prodromou@annie you could make two signs! Seriously, thanks for the good story and the work you do.
@evan haha, good point! And thank you :)
Photo Ewen 📷
Sara Joy 
@annie people really can, and until they do change, it's not that they know they're on some kind of dark side, they believe what they believe because they love, and usually they feel like they're doing the most loving thing. Until they realise they aren't.
There are people who are clearly on the dark side - like oligarchical rich horrible humans - but I think most people are doing their best with the information that they have access to / shoved down their throats.
@annie Sorry went off on some kind of pseudo-philosophical knowitall comment - thank you so much for sharing, Annie
Maggie Maybe@sarajw @annie I enjoyed reading it. I’m a middle-aged white woman who didn’t even know I had internalized misogyny until sometime in the last decade, and it has taken me a really long time to purge it from my being.
It’s quite possible that in my quest to do that I swung too far in the other direction, but I’m actually OK with that. I am 4B AF now (not the TERFy “West 4B” I just don’t deal with the patriarchal con of “romantic love” and once I realized that people think they have a right to infect other people with disease I don’t let them touch my body anymore either.)
I’m embarrassed about how long it took me to come around, I recently apologized to some of my younger friends because I know when they were in their 20s and I was in my 30s I was saying dumb stuff to them, but those millennials were not having it. And I thought they just didn’t know how the world worked. But they were right and I was wrong.
@sarajw pseudo-philosophical is my fave comment genre :) and I think a lot about this line I read somewhere: “No one does the wrong thing on purpose.”
That doesn’t mean it’s the right thing ofc… but usually people are choosing what they think is best based on their current understanding and motivations and fears.
That doesn’t mean it’s the right thing ofc… but usually people are choosing what they think is best based on their current understanding and motivations and fears.
"No one does the wrong thing on purpose.”
I agree up to a point - somewhere a line is crossed into greed and ambition and some people stop at nothing. But there's a lot fewer of those awful kinds of people.
@sarajw Oh yeah, for sure. Evil exists (as you pointed out, the horrible humans) and some people absolutely cross that line into it.
Proto Himbo European@annie Well written, inspiring, and uncomfortably close to my experience on many points. Glad you are more comfortable in yourself and the world now.
@guyjantic thank you 🧡
Manegiste Flou ⏚ (he/him)@annie thanks for sharing !
@LaurentB45 thanks for reading
Karl Heinz HäsliprinzCheck out "trainspotting choose life"
@KarlHeinzHasliP excellent
Anita Lewis"Now I don’t know anything! But I also don’t feel obligated to hate people. So that’s a good trade-off."
I love how you word this. It's a difficult place to come to, but so very liberating!
@ajlewis2 So very very liberating.
Jim Nielsen
Zach Leatherman@annie I struggle with this. I look back at my evangelical upbringing and my beliefs back then and know that this post is about me too.
I still think it’s important to hold the belief and hope that people can change (even if it’s rare).
But I also (personally) need to accept that the people I want change from the most might never change.
@zachleat yes, I struggle with this duality too. There are people who love me who sincerely believe I am bound for hell when I die. I love them too and believe they're (inadvertently perhaps, but still) part of actively creating hell on earth. It's hard to know what to do with all that.
Phillip 
Lou Plummer 💖@annie Sister, I voted for Ronald Fucking Reagan in 1984 as a 19-year-old GI who wanted to go to war in Central America to protect everyone from the evil Sandinistas. You're goddamn right, people can change.