Farah 🖖🏼🧶🏳️🌈The more parenting books I read, the more it becomes clear to me that YOU have to adapt to your child, not the other way around. Yet most of us who were non-conventional growing up, were basically bullied and abused to fit in to our parents’ lives. No wonder we became messed up adults with severe trust and abandonment issues #parenting #ChildhoodTrauma
Kimberlee Chestnut Chang@farah 100% true. It can be very hard unlearning the conditioning we grew up with while trying to figure out what your kid needs while fending off the judgement of friends and family.
Papa Peugeot@farah totally agree! How about baby led feeding!? I got a chance to watch this happen with my 9-month-old granddaughter. Totally different!
TeflonTrout@farah or just fucking ignored.
My dad loves me and it's obvious, but otoh is famous for making promises that go nowhere, excluding us from what he did, etc. He's taught me to be a great dad by showing me how bad it feels to be not chosen to do anything with your parent, or to have them not follow through on something for you
@TeflonTrout Relatable
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@farah There's a difference between bullying a kid into obedience and exercising parental authority. What I've learned from successful parents is to make sure you have a bond and real connection with the kid, then exercising parental authority and guiding the child is easier and doesn't feel like bullying.
glasspshr@farah you are great parent, I have no doubt. My mom broke the cycle as well
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Kevin Davy@farah
Yep. Even though we knew that most of it was well-meant, it didn't stop it hurting.
Yep. Even though we knew that most of it was well-meant, it didn't stop it hurting.