Sherlock HawkMar 18, 2024
ADHDeanASL

Mastodon is my primary social media, and there’s a lot I dig about it. But if there’s one thing I’d like to change, it’s the way people say THIS IS A CRISIS RIGHT NOW AND IT’S THE MAIN CRISIS AND IF YOU DON’T DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT RIGHT NOW YOU’RE BAD AND WRONG!!!

Know what? It’s *your* crisis. Do what you think is right. Stop judging others for having different priorities, political or otherwise. Quit putting everything in black and white, absolute terms. It’s exhausting, and nobody can live like that.

Mar 18, 2024 at 3:42amWeb
Show threadElizabeth Tai | 戴秀铃 🇲🇾Mar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl Totally, totally. And a lot of times it's skewed towards what Americans think is a crisis. The rest of the world have other priorities and we just want to be left alone.
Show threadJuho MäntysaloMar 18, 2024

@liztai @adhdeanasl

Just to air my related pet peeve: US people think they're the world to the extend they don't even bother to put their location on their profile. And if there's something that can be read as location, it's a place that's so "other" that they don't even think it's an even theoretical alternative.

Just the day before yesterday I made an error by thinking someone was Syrian..

Show threadElizabeth Tai | 戴秀铃 🇲🇾Mar 18, 2024

@iju TBH, I don't think it's a habit everyone would do, especially if you belong to a less than popular country. I only placed the flag in my profile because people kept talking to me about US-related stuff that I frankly don't get and want to stay away from lol. Even then, some assume I should still have the same values lol.

@adhdeanasl

Show threadJuho MäntysaloMar 18, 2024

@liztai @adhdeanasl

Well, you've right to your opinion, ofc.

Personally I feel that almost any conversation that touches either personal life or politics (in the wider sense of the word) has to do with either your upbringing or current place of location.

There's a reason that anecdotically most people in smaller areas tell or imply where they're from, either directly or by listing a rare language, with domain ending, etc.

Meanwhile people from stateside just list hobbies, or profession.

Show threadJuho MäntysaloMar 18, 2024

@liztai @adhdeanasl

I'll add that surprisingly many DO list their pronouns*, which generally speaking affect less our way of contextualising the other person's words than the place they live.

The above mentioned conversation with the Syrian-that-wasn't finally went off-rails due to statement about hating anarcho-communists for their being pro-Trump, and then being unwilling to reformat to a wider theoretical or global view.

_
* Which is a good thing, don't get me wrong.

Show threadHyL☮️🚲🇨🇦Mar 19, 2024

@iju @liztai @adhdeanasl A telling example of your point is USAian university email addresses' domain indicator. They're all .edu -- as if the only educational institutions *on the planet* are in the USA.
The default myopia, combined with hegemonic imperialism is exhausting.

#USAianMyopia

Show threadHyL☮️🚲🇨🇦Mar 19, 2024
@liztai @iju @adhdeanasl
Same (🇨🇦)
Show threadHyL☮️🚲🇨🇦Mar 19, 2024
@iju @liztai @adhdeanasl
Same!!
Try living next door to them.
(Ok, I guess it's better than living next door to Russia.)
Show threadHyL☮️🚲🇨🇦Mar 19, 2024
@liztai @adhdeanasl
Yes. Which is why I continually advocate for using #s. Mastodon is unique in that we can use hashtags to filter our feeds. If USAians would remember Mastodon users (Mastodonts) are *international*, & #flag their toots, we could avoid being exhausted by their firehoses. It's an ethos of care I learned early, in the 1st instance I joined (Counter.Social) & it makes communicating so much nicer when filters like my "Maga block" works.
Show threadJoanna HolmanMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl @liztai I very much agree, although unfortunately the same attitude seems to have taken over most social platforms
Show threadElizabeth Tai | 戴秀铃 🇲🇾Mar 18, 2024
@joannaholman @adhdeanasl Only way to manage is to mute, filter and block. Thank God Mastodon has these features. Don't think I can be here otherwise.
Show threadHyL☮️🚲🇨🇦Mar 19, 2024

@liztai @joannaholman @adhdeanasl

YES! With roses!

Show threadSuperdave!Mar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl I've had enough personal crises without adopting those of others. Yes, it's exhausting. Similarly, I've stopped reading all those damned outrage-of-the-day blogs.
Show threadMark AsserMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl Amen.
Show threadMark AsserMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl I've just blocked a couple of sanctimonious dickheads I found in the replies here. Bonus!
Show threadTexty the BardMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl Kinda hard to ignore crises when your own safety is at stake. But I'm guessing you know nothing about what that feels like.
Show threadkorvroffeMar 18, 2024
@textualdeviance @adhdeanasl
I too am constantly worried about climate change.
Show threadADHDeanASLMar 18, 2024
@textualdeviance Yes, because I’m a middle aged white man I have never suffered and have no capacity for empathy. Can you even hear yourself?
Show threadPistolenkindMay 1, 2024
@adhdeanasl @textualdeviance The passive aggressiveness of cis white straight men (and I am one myself) pisses me off. This constant “Yeah, just because I’m a white man doesn’t mean I don’t understand your problems.” No, we do not. That doesn't mean we don't have problems. Nobody said that. But no one whispers when we are at the supermarket checkout, for example about our skin color. We have social privileges and WE should take note of that.
Show threadMark GardnerMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl @lisamelton Agreed. Individual social media “activism” is pointless compared to the real thing and whinging about friends’ perceived inaction is just another way of wishing someone else would do the work.
Show threadGrassroots JoeMar 18, 2024

@adhdeanasl

I well understand the fatigue and desire to get a break from all the shitty stuff going on in the world, but I don't think it's anyone's responsibility but yours to curate your feed to tone down what you see.
If you are interested, may I suggest you build a few lists populated with accounts that will meet your desire for fun or silly or intellectually stimulating or the arts or whatever you like.
That way anytime you need an uplift fix, you can be confident of getting what you need.

Show threadVon XylofonMar 18, 2024

@joeinwynnewood @adhdeanasl That's not really Dean's point, I would argue. (Certainly isn't mine, and I agree word-for-word with him.) The point is influencing public discourse.

Remember how dudebros would reply to #BLM that all lives matter? How "if you don't care about all lives equally, you're racist" was (rightfully) dismissed as bullshit because focusing on one issue doesn't invalidate others? How is this different? IMO it is bad thinking and people who will listen should be told.

Show threadGrassroots JoeMar 19, 2024

@vonxylofon @adhdeanasl

There's a big difference between immensely privileged people replying to marginalized people with complete bullshit and what sounds to me like marginalized people, or at least people who feel their lives are at real risk, waving a big red flag about it.
You need not believe they are correct in their assessment or their level of panic, but it's their assessment and panic rooted in real things in the world and their lives.
It seems pretty presumptuous to tell them ...

Show threadGrassroots JoeMar 19, 2024

@vonxylofon @adhdeanasl

to stop because, in your opinion, they're wrong or too shrill.

Show threadVon XylofonMar 19, 2024
@joeinwynnewood @adhdeanasl You're absolutely right, but that's not the point that is being made. That point is shaming people for not being as invested as they are in their particular crisis. I myself have picked a crisis and gave literal thousands of $ to solving it over a short period of time so far. Am I a bad person because I haven't done the same for (or at least aren't outraged about) all other crises equally? The people mentioned in OP say I am, and I don't think that discourse helps.
Show threadGrassroots JoeMar 19, 2024

@vonxylofon @adhdeanasl

I don't think you can split that hair.

I expect if you were to ask the posters if shame is what they are aiming for they will respond that they want people to recognize the threat their indifference poses to life and limb.

And in fact you don't like how they're going about expressing that. Their correct reply would be that's not up to you, or me.

If we don't want to be subject to their toots, we can mute or block them.

Show threadJuho MäntysaloMar 18, 2024

@adhdeanasl

Well, there are problems that can't be seen as consumer choice, like the polycrisis, or human rights. Everyone SHOULD commit to at least seeing these as important.

Then there's things that aren't consumer choice, but where binary thinking is just making things worse (the lgbt+ has the '+' due to people repeatedly collapsing the choices past sense).

Beneath that there's the local politics, or things that can be seen as consumerism.

Show threadmadmaxMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl The most annoying thing is "all caps". There are plenty of ways to emphasize but for some reason **all caps** get used all the time, it make things harder to read. I can't focus on what they are actually saying. This is text, screaming is unnecessary and it never feels like that, instead it just feels annoying.
Show threadJörg SeidelMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl
Not happening in my bubble too often. Maybe try switching server.
@anderspuck
Show threadHarro van der KlauwMar 18, 2024

@adhdeanasl "Yeah, well, you know, that's just, like, your opinion, man." - The Dude

;-)

Show threadJuho MäntysaloMar 18, 2024

@hvdklauw @adhdeanasl

The whole point of the film was that Dude didn't have any opinions of his own. Everything he said he had heard from someone else earlier in the film, and he just repeated them when he was expected to have something to say.

He was very much an NPC who was pushed without his will to be the protagonist, to use youth parlance.

(Also that both Lebowskis were rather useless: the other was just a leech with air of grandeur.)

He wasn't meant to be a role model.

Show threadDaniel LakelandMar 18, 2024
@iju
Wow, you really missed the point of the movie. It's a Raymond Chandler send up, The Dude is the moral compass of the movie. He cares deeply about injustice, his rug, and the what have you that his landlord is putting on, and that poor woman, and helping Maude conceive a child, and Donnie who loved bowling, and his pacifist friends, and helping his Vietnam veteran friend with PTSD function better. The Dude is absolutely a role model in the same way as Philip Marlowe
@hvdklauw @adhdeanasl
Show threadADHDeanASLMar 18, 2024
@dlakelan @iju @hvdklauw
Show threadGiant Stag Beetle 🪲Mar 18, 2024
@dlakelan @iju @hvdklauw @adhdeanasl Also and perhaps most importantly, he really hates the fuckin' Eagles
Show threadJuho MäntysaloMar 18, 2024

@dlakelan @hvdklauw @adhdeanasl

Well, that reading is possible as well. Never read Raymond Chandler.

To me, it seemed like he chose the path of least resistance through the whole film. It's been years since I last saw it, but I remember that Maude was the driving force with the child-thing, for example.

Show threadDaniel LakelandMar 18, 2024
@iju
Strongly recommend you read The Big Sleep, then watch the movie, then maybe Robert Altman's The Long Goodbye, then rewatch TBL. You CAN NOT understand TBL without knowing at least a bit about Film Noir and it's origins, specifically Raymond Chandler.
@hvdklauw @adhdeanasl
Show threadJuho MäntysaloMar 18, 2024

@dlakelan @hvdklauw @adhdeanasl

Sure, when I have time. Until then I'll stay with the death of the author -reading. :)

Show threadDaniel LakelandMar 18, 2024
@iju
Maude is the driving force, yes, but when confronting DaFino The Dude is all-in on protecting his Lady Friend from a guy who claims to be a fellow Shamus. Chandler's books are all about an ex cop who does what the official cops refuse to do, fixing ills of the world at little cost to others and often great personal risk. He's the original ACAB and even identifies a fellow closet socialist on the police force in one of the early books.
@hvdklauw @adhdeanasl
Show threadRolingMetalMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl Thanks for being a voice of reason. So many crises, but Mastodon is fixing only one :)
Show threadTom_MN☮️🇱🇧🇮🇱🇮🇷🇵🇸🕊️🇺🇦🇷🇺🇰🇵🏳️‍🌈Mar 18, 2024

@adhdeanasl Well stated❗️😎

So tired of “breaking news“ that’s not breaking and/or not really anything critically newsworthy from most all the major networks that I try not to glean any content from, if I can help it.

Admonishing urgency unnecessarily usually are cries for help in some twisted way, in my opinion.

Also, so sick and tired of these same major networks trying to make a “horse race” out of this US presidential election (obviously for more profit 💵 disregarding the damage it does to our democracy and their own possible continuing existence) when one candidate in the red ball cap with the horrid malignant narcissistic bronzer and ridiculous hairstyle is so massively unqualified and obviously clinically demented it’s crazy (pun intended).🤨

Show threadSebastien 🌍 🇵🇸🇺🇦 Mar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl this is clearly your crisis? 🤔
Show threadADHDeanASLMar 18, 2024
@SebastienK it was that moment I posted it. When I posted about it that one time.
Show threadapemantusMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl This is an unprecedented total crisis of opinions. If we don’t stop judging, mankind will be exhausted forever…
Show threadSen the Professional Mar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl The only thing I've found to do is to try and pick out some keywords and add a filter so I don't hear about that specific cause célèbre again. But not everyone helpfully SEO's their exhortation, and sometimes the text is in an image, or w/e, so I can only filter out so much. Yes it drives me nuts as well.
Show threadGarethMar 18, 2024

@adhdeanasl

Agree.

I also think it's a downside of there not being an algorithm. (I'm here for the upside)

Some people like being absolutist. Some are exaggerating it to get engagement.

I've been getting very annoyed too especially when I want to read a cycling post and I get an anti fascist post in the same message.

I support your appeal to get people to tone it down from time to time and remind myself that I have to constantly refine filters based on other people's changes.

Show threadAlairMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl unfortunately this isn't unique to mastodon. This is why I have filters on all my social media. Everything is PAY ATTENTION TO [TERRIBLE THING], and there are too many of these, no one person can ever hope to care about everything ever. Our brains weren't built for this.
Show threadLil Meow MeowMar 18, 2024

@adhdeanasl

Wrong but best of luck to you being unaffected by the climate crisis or facsism.

Just spare the world your whining when the consequences hit you personally.

Mute-blocked.

Show threadADHDeanASLMar 18, 2024
@lil_meow_meow Thank you for providing this excellent example. You won’t hear this thanks because you’ve muted/blocked me, but whatever works for you.
Show threadPat MadiganMar 18, 2024
@lil_meow_meow block-blocked @adhdeanasl
Show threadBeko Pharm (deprecated)Mar 18, 2024

@adhdeanasl iktf.

> "Share this if you're (for|against) $something!!1eleven"

How about no? My timeline is mine and while I may even agree on whatever I should share rn I'm not gonna taint mine with this crap that basically boils down to a stupid chain letter.

Like… idk… I seriously hope my followers feel safe with me even without putting up a poster every gorram day o0

Show threadkætMar 18, 2024

@adhdeanasl Mastodon is definitely very INFJ.

So INFP's *kinda* feel at home here more than other places.

Cue anti Myers-Briggs J-ing. 😄

Show threadhappyborgMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl
Never seen that here on three accounts on different servers.
Show threadElizabethMar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl I completely agree sometimes lol. Sometimes when I go on my feed, it’s just person after person screaming like you just said. Other times people can be chill. I have had to cull screamers out of my feed multiple times and then there’s a beautiful quiet and people talk about ants or other interesting things.
Show threadElizabeth Tai | 戴秀铃 🇲🇾Mar 19, 2024
@Elizabeth3 @adhdeanasl same! My feed is cats, dogs, gardens and cdramas and kdramas!
Show threadElizabethMar 19, 2024
@liztai @Elizabeth3 @adhdeanasl what are cdramas and kdramas?
Show threadElizabeth Tai | 戴秀铃 🇲🇾Mar 20, 2024
@Elizabeth3 @adhdeanasl Chinese and korean dramas
Show threadHe looks like he's [REDACTED]™Mar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl but Dean. have you heard that CEOs make a lot of money and workers don't? HAVE YOU?
Show threadADHDeanASLMar 18, 2024
@quasirealsmiths HWAT
Show threadHe looks like he's [REDACTED]™Mar 18, 2024
@adhdeanasl AND CLIMATEis cHANGIng EVERY MINUTE WHY ARENT YOU DOING SOMETHING RIGHT NOW